"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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[Poll] Should I go for DJBC Week 3 ?

Should I go for DJBC Week 3... Or not... ?

  • Yes

    Votes: 8 100.0%
  • No

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
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Pathetik

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Hi guys!

I don't know if this is the right place to post that... Anyway ...

First of all, please don't vote if you don't know what I'm talking about ;)
Furthermore, feel free to write everything you think about, no sweet words.
I'm not here to have praise but to improve myself ;)


Well, I feel I shouldn't go for week 3 and I want to be honest so please help me to find out :)

The goal of DJBC week 2 is to talk to 10 strangers during 2min at least.
Here is my report:

Day 1 : +1
I had a small "playing" talk with a nice chick in the pool hall.
I could have a num close easily but I didn't even try.

Day 2 : -

Day 3 : +4
I went in a japanese restaurant where I talked to the boss.
That was cool. (+1)
Then I went in a pub with 2 friend of mine. When we came in, both of them went to piss. I was alone so I sat down at a table where some people were having a drink. They looked at me like I was crazy or somethin'.
Nonetheless I started to talk to a man next to me. We talked for a long time even if his friends were laughing (like "ahahahaha this guy is hitting on you ahahaah" :rolleyes: ) (+2)
After that I began to talk to the only chick there. We had a good talk and everybody at the table seemed to accept me. (+3)
Finally everybody, except a guy, went out to smoke. I talked to this guy and that was pretty cool too (+4)

Day 4 : -
I went to the pool hall with some friends again. There were friends of my best friend's girlfriend. I'had already seen them. I mean, when I see them I say hi and then nothing is coming.
But this time I had a long talk with 2 of them.
I guess it doesn't count ... :( (^^)

Day 5: (?)
A chick I've known on internet invited me at a party of her school. That was in a pub.
I don't really know her but I went there alone. I was quite nervous.
She introduced me in a 4 guys set (actually one guy and three chick (2 ugly and one already taken)) but anybody seemed to want to talk to me. So I started to talk to the guy here. I did a lot of teasing to his girlfriend. That was pretty funny by the way ^^
I talked to her and then had a small talk with the two other chick. I can't know how long I talked to them.
Finally I talked to a my internet friend's girl friend and to her boyfriend.

Since I was introduced in a way I don't know if these count ...

Day 6 : (+1)
I talked to a guy at my work who was coming from Belgium (never seen before)

Day 7: (-)
I worked late today and I'm exausted. I was not in the mood for talking to strangers :(

Debriefing :

First, I don't know if all my talk count ...
Secondly, I'm not feeling I could talk to strangers in a mall or stuff like that if there is no "reason" to do that (Like just saying hi and speaking about the weather... I'm feeling this is ackward...

I did a real effort to try to pass this week. I was not lazy or staying home (except today but I'm really tired)

That's it. Just tell me what you guys think about it :)

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Al Moh.

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I know it feels akward, same for me. But you can get over it. All it really takes is the first step. Just go there and act as if it is normal. Crash and burn. On and on and on. You'll care less and less and finally you get to a point where you don't worry anymore but rather act out of natural instinct. This is where it gets natural. This is where the success comes on. Come on, stay with us!
 

rushing dude 123

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dude get ur ass out there and get those other 4 convos lol, its not to late. U got 4 in a day on day 3, so u can do it again. Dude i think ur a really kool guy and i want to see u in week 8.
 

Apostle IX

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dude don't give up man, I know it may seem hard but you can do it bro im exhausted also but im still gonna go out and try to get some convos in also I dunno why but try talking to some people working in a store or anything I know you can do it
 

Pathetik

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Thanks guys for supporting me :cheer:
Thanks for the vote.

Well I assume I'm out of DJBC competition :cry:
Nonetheless I'M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP ! :nono:
I'll try to do those 4 convos this evening and keep going this **** on :rockon:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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