"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I also think a lot. I know everybody does, but I think to myself quite a bit. I just tend to notice things, mull them over, and move on. While I enjoy the company of other people, I'm also perfectly fine with spending a night with myself.
That isn't to say that I'm not outgoing. I am. I just like to observe and listen more than I like to talk.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I may not have f*cked that many women(about 9 or so), but I'm at least proud to say that EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I've slept with, was hot. I think I'm actually gonna use this as my new sig.
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99% of my girls were hot =)
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Awwww. Does somebody need their ego stroked?edger said:
I don't remember ANYONE saying that half the women they banged were ugly.
Furthermore, I don't remember a stipulation being mentioned by the OP that it didn't count if they were ugly.
I've even got to press the issue past that and ask why you are even responding to this thread if you have admittedly banged less than 15 women.
I am also proud to say that every single woman I've slept with was hot.
Sorry, if I'm wrong I'm wrong, but to me it sounded like you were either trying to get your ego stroked or going for a +1 on your post count
Bigdada
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oh, and btw, how I do it is I become really good friends with them first, (Without coming off as a wuss friend--basically I choose them to be my friend, not her choosing me
yeah, it takes a bit longer and the results are not as instantaneous, but I profess that it (almost) always works.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Daddy The Pimp
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.But now i raised my standards.
I think im extrovert.
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That's not what those words mean.
An introvert is a natural personality trait.
It does NOT NOT NOT mean shy.
If you got over being shy and not talking so much because you were scared to talk or whatever, then you were never introverted to start with. You were just a insecure extrovert.
Introversion means you prefer to be that way. You feel that constant socialization drains you. You like doing your own thing by yourself. Your company is better than the company of others most of the time.
I'm not shy, but i'm an introvert. Sometimes it's a struggle just to say "hi" to my own friends because that's how little i want to deal with people at times. I take people in small doses. A few hours max. I rarely go out more than one night a weekend. I have fun one night then the other i completely do my own thing alone. At work, i prefer to alone in my office with the door closed, but I do come out and socialize. I just can't do the constant chit chat a lot of other people do all day. I'm not socially 'on' all day. People are annoying and draining.
But as I used to be really shy, I think I am extroverted a bit much. I say whatever is on my mind and it messes things up sometimes. If I'm NOT talking sometimes I feel down!
As for hotties, been with a couple. Been with more average and ugly women though. I'm not that attractive myself though.
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FairShake said:Big time extrovert.
But as I used to be really shy, I think I am extroverted a bit much. I say whatever is on my mind and it messes things up sometimes. If I'm NOT talking sometimes I feel down!
As for hotties, been with a couple. Been with more average and ugly women though. I'm not that attractive myself though.
Me too, i think its because since i am a social person, i need to talk to people or otherwise i sometimes i feel depressed, because i like to be around people .I thinks its my curious mind, and the fact that im craving a conversation and a good time. I got in trouble sometimes at work for talking too much, but hey i provide really good customer service.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
edger
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My ego's actually sky high, as I'm quite content with my progression in the way I handle women. I must say, I'm a confident man, I'm exactly where I want to be in the game. I may not pull that much, and I'll blatantly without shame, admit that. All I know is, it's not in my deck of cards at the moment(or it may never be, who knows). Life goes on though.magickarl said:
Yeah, neither.magickarl said: