poll: does happiness depend on a woman?

[joekerr31]

ok guys, one of the things i've noticed is that a lot of guys here have attached their happiness on a woman, or on getting a woman.

personally i believe a woman might bring bursts of euphoria t your life, in the same way a shot of heroine would, but in terms of long term happiness they really don't add much.

my belief is that being happy is something you have to acheive without a woman first.

what's your views?
J

 

[Ricky]

I voted sort of and here is why.

As much as I truly believe that not only you can be happy without a woman and need to learn to be happy with yourself first, I think there is such a drive for us to meet, date, seduce, fvck, women when we are single.

To me this drive can be overwhelming at times, although the drive hits the dumps when I experience a painful breakup.

We are programmed whether by God, evolution, or God's created evolution to want to mate.

If you aren't getting laid which I'll freely admit I'm not (and nto getting laid to me means going on the order of weeks without it), then you are suffering a bit.

But what is wrong is to go out and see couples and feel bad that you arent in a relatiionship right now.

In fact, from now on I'm going to reframe every couple I see as 2 AFC's doing traditional dating activities. But then again what do I know I'm a bitter guy that has actually been turning down a few opportunities to get laid.

 

[JackPrescott]

You have to be happy, and complete WITHOUT a woman, making it day by day, finding your "niche" as far as a career, school, the whole 9 yards. Lets take "Stan" as an example. "Stan" is a guy in his mid thirties, average guy, likes the NFL, the NBA, ect. Has a nice car, little pad, and is currently going for his RN. IF he makes it, he can get a job anywhere in the country, and in a respected field. Right now he is taking classes and clinicals, working part time at a restaurant as a bartender to make bills/ends meet. when he has time, he hits the town with his buddies, both make and female. He is a busy guy, between his studying, his job, workouts, and school, and a little social life on the weekends. Still, it can tend to get a bit lonely on those long winter nights, spent alone, hugging his pillow, wishing it were a naked woman who wanted him.

Say, on an average Friday night, he meets "Cassie" a friend of a friend. There is some chemistry, they land up at her place, a little making out, and he leaves. Then, a few weeks later, they meet up again, at a night time establishment where she is getting hit on by other guys, but she sees "Stan" and is delighted. They kiss and dance and even though they dont go home together, it is inevitable that it is going to go down. A night later, after some wine, and romantic music, it does. And it was good, for both of them. But right now, Stan does not have time for a relationship, he is trying to get this RN career off the ground, there is three TOUGH months of studying ahead, and he is simply too busy with work and school to spend 7 days a week with this woman, and vice versa, "Cassie" has a life too.

Still, a bottle of fine wine is a bit much, but a glass with dinner is wonderful. They see each other about once a week, sometimes "Booty Call" sometimes an actual date.....she has needs and so does he, and together, with the help of Mr. Trojan, they fullfill each other's needs.

Cassie at this point, ENHANCES Stan's life, but ISNT his whole life. And thats as it should be.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You're asking for problems whenever you place your own wellbeing on the actions of another. You might as well be an indentured servant.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Women are only ever a compliment to a man's life, NEVER the focus of it.

The attention of women should be the result of having focused on your own successes to the extent that they want to be associated with it and you.

 

[Bonhomme]

No-brainer

numero uno

 

[TheTrimReaper]

There was a guy. He was 30 years old and tired of the way his life was going. So he got on this website, did self improvement, and made some long-term goals. While he was meeting all these different women, he met a girl he really hit it off with. Soon she was chasing him, while he kept working on his own plans. But it seemed as though the more he focused on his own dreams and making his goals happen, the more she was motivated to become a part of his life. She loved the challenge, and even though he wouldn't tell her he loved her for a really long time, she kept coming around. Sending him cards. Giving him gifts. Coming over and sucking his ++++.

Then the guy made a big mistake. She sweet-talked(and f*cked) him into letting her move in after being together for eight months. Then before he knew it, about 3 years had passed. And the dreams that he had set out to accomplish were still only dreams.

Then he realized that he was nudged, ever so slightly, for so long that the person he had been was almost gone. And the way he had used to get happiness, being a great person in general to himself and everyone, was no longer a system he was using. Why did that happen? How did it happen?Was it his fault? Did he fail to maintain his own identity by getting lazy? Did she do it? Should he have fought her more when she asked him over and over again to open up and let her understand him and love him?

I think the woman thrived on a challenge. At first, the challenge was to get herself positioned as a priority in his life. I think she then was challenged to get into his emotions. And then when she knew she was in his emotions, she carelessly accepted any emotions that made her feel better but shunned any emotions her mate had that left him vulnerable and in need of support.

Her partner never wanted her to account for his happiness. But she did. And he didn't know how much until she was gone. He didn't know what hit him. Expensive lesson learned.