I guess what I just described isn't really poking fun at, but simply acknowledging issues. When I poke fun at myself I do things like say "you know you could easily get with that guy over there who's got 30 pounds of muscle over me, so I dunno why the hell you picked me instead". Upon which she would rattle off a big list of reasons why I like her...then I would shrug those off and not thank her, in any way, for the compliments. I dunno, it works for me.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
poking fun at self to express confidence
- Thread starter mofro
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Reagan was good at it, too. After he got shot, and they were wheeling him into surgery to take out the bullet, there's a quote, at least attributed to him, where he says he hopes the doctor is a Republican (Reagan's political party). Notice that it is humor more than it is self-deprecating. I think in rare instances where it is funny or ironic, you can poke a little fun at yourself. One good way is to mix two things that you happen to happen to be very good at, or very bad at. This shows humility and self-respect at the same time.
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comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Bonez said:
maybe its just to get rid of me so they don't ahve to see my ugly mug (example as well)And actually one girl did give me her name and number in front of my girlfriend. I took the number and pocketed. Hung out with her for a while and were good friends. My girlfriend is uneasy around her, but whatever. I don't plan on doing anything.
Also, something that I do that usually helps me to make it not look bad. Is that I play up my strengths as well much more then my weaknesses. For every weakness that I have, I have ten strengths that can be played up.
My job alone has enough to talk about that it minimizes my weaknesses. I am the school mascot (no I am not a person inside the big animal costume, but a pirate that is just dressed up).
Being famous at my university, pretty popular, and semi-good looking helps A LOT in this respect.
I'll tell you what, I'll post pictures of me and my friends. You can tell me what everyone thinks about them sometime this week.
comic_relief
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Nonsense. Approve is attested from c. 1340, meaning "to attest (something) with authority;" hence, "favorable reception." Accept is attested from c. 1360, frequently meaning "to receive;" hence, "favorable reception." What does attest mean? In Latin, attested from 1547, "to confirm." In English, "authenticate, affirm to be true, genuine, or correct, as in an official capacity."Francisco d'Anconia said:
- I approve of this signature.
- I accept this signature.
- I attest to this signature.
This argument, by the way, is mere pedantry.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Oh yeah, I bet you've heard people actually say these things.Demon said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I get not having a laugh at the expense of others but your example isn't really self deprecating, if anything it's c/f.comic_relief said:
Here's a few examples of what typical "nice guys" around these parts would say that completely makes me retch:
"Wow, you answered the phone! I was about to think that I had scared you away."
"I'm glad that I you like this restaurant, you probably wouldn't be seen in public with me anywhere else."
"Oh come on, just one hug... I'm a nice guy!"
"I'm glad that I you like this restaurant, you probably wouldn't be seen in public with me anywhere else."
"Oh come on, just one hug... I'm a nice guy!"
I kid you not, these guys actually said this stuff jokingly! Someone said earlier that guy's would do this because they were insecure and needed reassurance or an ego boost and that was exactly what these guys needed. And like you said, they are validated when the woman reassures or validates them by saying something like "Oh no, I don't think you are that much of a toad..."[/quote]Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
OoooooKKkkkkkkk......Demon said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yep, that you you have frustrated yourself to now have post envy. Care to share what other types of measurement envy that you may have????Demon said:
C'mon, is my acceptance of you that important to 'ya?
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Accept and approve ARE different words with different meanings. They may be similar, and they can be used as synonyms, but they aren't the same.
Quite simply, you can approve something or someone, without fully accepting it/them. Happens all the time with credit cards!
And vice versa. "I accept this, Mary Jane, because I have to. But I don't approve!!"
Quite simply, you can approve something or someone, without fully accepting it/them. Happens all the time with credit cards!
And vice versa. "I accept this, Mary Jane, because I have to. But I don't approve!!"
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Self depreciating humor is hot, if it is done correctly. Such as Comic Relief. I can think of some actors (or atleast their characters) that mastered this well, if you need more examples.
However this right here is not humor in any context, it reeks of insecurity and would be a turn off:
However this right here is not humor in any context, it reeks of insecurity and would be a turn off:
mofro said:
Why the hell would Demon try to battle with Fransisco on this thread? Seriously - Francisco is a scholar and gentlemen, with significant age and experience.
You are obviously NOT AS SMART as you think are!
Nothing you post is significant or interesting.
You are obviously NOT AS SMART as you think are!
Nothing you post is significant or interesting.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why do people have to bring up the age thing... Somebody's gonna end up giving me a complex...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I still think that Comic's examples were more c/f without him actually believing what he's saying about himself. A lot of guys here in Minnesota want to play the pity card and it's obvious that they're looking for reassurance from what they say whether it's funny or not.iqqi said:
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I don't get it, where did your quote come from?Francisco d'Anconia said:
Maybe it could be viewed that way. I suppose if you look at it that way, then it is more c/f. Either way, it is useful and works well.
The reason it looks bad on most people is because they actually believe it or try to use it as a crutch. I let my character do the talking. I don't really believe it, therefore, it is just poking fun at yourself.
maybe just maybe, we should define self-depricating humor so we don't get our definitions mixed up.
comic_relief
iqqi
Master Don Juan
That would fall under the example I gave of the OP's example of "self depreciating". It was bullsh!t. It was pitiful, and he was looking for reassurance, for sure.Francisco d'Anconia said:
But Comic Relief's comments were indeed ****y, funny, witty, AND self depreciating, in a good way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Lol, does CR have me blocked cuz I's a woman? Haha. That IS comedic!comic_relief said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.