"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey brothers,

I signed up to POF a few weeks ago, sometimes message girls in between sets when working out, and other times when I'm bored.

I've not really been getting many replies, so thought I'd get an outside perspective on my profile, and what may be stopping it getting the results I want.

Here it is: http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=32804750

I know some of you here have been getting some good results. What's your gut feeling?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Kinda looks like your prepping ugly chicks to message you.

And creativity > the direct approach.

I never got replies until I made my profile completely ridiculous and funny.

Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity
 

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SgtSplacker said:
Kinda looks like your prepping ugly chicks to message you.

And creativity > the direct approach.

I never got replies until I made my profile completely ridiculous and funny.

Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity Creativity
What he said.

Your profile isn't really giving women many occasions to "open" you. And take out that stuff about "illiterate, overweight, etc." I hate when girls get all negative about what they DON'T want. I'd imagine that girls hate it too.

If some fatties write you, then just delete it. Or just hint at it, like "I hope to find a woman as into fitness as I am." Some sh*t like that, instead of "No fat chicks."
 

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briefly add in a line or two about your passions.

that will get them something to ask you about.
 

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"I'm just looking for friends right now"
"Looking to Date, but nothing serious"

Those 2 lines above need to be deleted from your profile. Women are looking for guys who want something long term and this makes you look like another random guy who wants nothing, but sex. 9 out of 10 profiles will say they want a guy for long term.

What separates players from regular guys is that a player can sell women the fantasy of a relationship even though he has no intentions of delivering. Change your status to looking for long term even if you're not. I got way more attention online when I gave off the impression that I was looking for something serious.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What have you been messaging them with? The typical hi how are you thing ain't gonna work. You need to hit them with something to get a rise out them, enticing them to respond.

And I agree, show no negativity on your about me, keep it humorous.
 

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Thanks for all the advice brothers.

Finding good pictures is what I find most difficult. I don't have many pictures of myself, certainly no shirtless ones.

What do you mean by "classy shirtless", anyway? On a beach? Just finished swimming and walking back but caught off guard by a friend taking photos?

What sort of pictures have worked for all of you?
 

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Find local tourist attractions with cool picture spots, wear some cool azz looking casual clothes, something a little "peacocky" try a hat or something. And take pics there. Look good not silly...

Wear a sport jacket and a nice crisp white shirt, go to a nice bar and take a pic with a nice deep amber beer on the bar.

Ask your friends to photoshop your face on a fish or hunting pic, not with the intention of fooling peeps but just for fun.

3 Picture ideas there...
 
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