"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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POF description. Please advise.

adam225

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Can you guys help me out with my POF description please. I'm absolutely terrible with this kind of stuff. So far my description stands as :

"Ok... let's get started...

My name is Adam and I'm from Streetly (Sutton Coldfield). I am a cheerful and positive person who always likes a good laugh.

In my spare time I like to go down the gym or out with mates. I'm not really a big drinker, but I certainly don't mind a drink. I'm also a huge movie fan so I'm easily pleased when it comes down to either the cinema or just staying in and watching a film.

I also love visiting different countries and learning about different cultures around the globe. My favorite place just has to be Dubai.

My ideal girl is one who is polite and respects herself as well as others. I also like a girl who is positive and has ambitions/goals to achieve in life.

Please forgive me if my description is rather vague. I'm not really the best at this stuff... If you want to know anything else about me then please ask, and I'll be happy to tell you."

So far I'm not really getting much feedback. I think the fact that my pictures aren't the best isn't helping as well.

Any help would be much appreciated....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gangster Of Love

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After you work on the pictures, you can start by NOT apologizing for anything or making reference to anything that is bad.
Once you have taken that out, you are left with the typical, average, generic profile that women will only respond to if they deem you 'Hot'.
 

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Ghey. Chicks online respond to retarded ****. You want to give off the vibe that you don't give a fvck. Look up some "naughty ninja pof" threads and that will get you started.
 

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OP that's some pretty weak sh*t.

"Please forgive me..." "I'm not really the best..."

Good lord. Cheerful and positive are your best qualities? And you're looking for a girl who is "polite?"

This has gotta be a troll.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No I'm not a "troll". I've just come out of a long relationship and have completely lost my confidence with reality. Why not just give me some solid and constructive advise instead of insulting me ? By all means, thanks for the feedback though. Just put me right....
 

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At least I don't try and act tough over the Internet. Now that's what you call pathetic...

All I'm after is some advice.
 

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I'm in same boat mate, just come out of an LTR and my confidence is pretty much at rock bottom

From my experience the crazier and quirkier the stuff you put on there the better amount of responses you seem to get. I looked this up in depth and apparently that's the bedt thing to do. Either that or just keep it really brief and generic

I think the key is to max out the messaging as well just send as many as poss until you get chatting with someone. I find a really brief copy cut intro seems to do the job

Hope this helps matey
 

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I don't know how to help you write a "better" description, but I can tell you what's wrong with what you have.

Don't apologize for what you want or what you are looking for. And don't be self deprecating. It's not anywhere near as attractive as someone that asserts what they want.

Say things like "I am looking for a girl that" or "I would be most compatible with a girl that". Assert these things.

Speak positively about yourself. Saying that you are a positive person is one thing, but actually giving an example or a short description of that is better. If you like to travel, talk about how many places you've been to, maybe even write a little snippet of why you liked a certain place, and talk about where else you would like to go.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Thanks guys. That's helped me out.

I can't understand why people on a forum like this would come out with such BS comments. To insult someone is basically saying you're weak and insecure in yourself in my eyes. We've all been here at one point, and as men, we need to help each other become stronger minded.
 

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adam225 said:
Thanks guys. That's helped me out.

I can't understand why people on a forum like this would come out with such BS comments. To insult someone is basically saying you're weak and insecure in yourself in my eyes. We've all been here at one point, and as men, we need to help each other become stronger minded.
How old are you? Your age GREATLY affects your strategy with online dating like you would not believe.
 

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I'm 26 (27 in August) Shall I just higher it?
 
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