POF and STDS???

[Desdinova]

How do you phrase it when you tell a woman? Do you ever keep it from any of them? I did something really risky lately so I want to prepare...

I've only been with one woman since my first outbreak ended... that's because I'm still with her. And during my first outbreak, I had a fair number of plates spinning. Go figure.

Before I told her, I was already preparing myself for how to handle it. Internet research gives the low-down on things statistically, but message forums are your best friend when it comes to real-life experiences with it. It also helped that my brother has it, so I asked him some stuff about it.

When I brought it up, I just started off with "Do you have any health issues? I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours! " So she told me about a couple of small things. Then, I asked her if she ever dated anyone who gets cold sores. She answered in the negative and said "You mean the ones on your face, right?" I said "No, the ones down south." She was kinda surprised, but I told her the truth about it... "It's just an occasionally mildly irritating skin problem. My eczema is far more annoying than that, and it also won't kill me like my athsma almost did a couple of times."

All throughout the whole thing, I was confident about it. I made sure I didn't stick to the subject for very long, just enough to let her know I had it. I figured if I hammered the 5hit out of it, it would appear as if it's a major influence in my life. I also didn't want to paint it as a horribly disgusting flesh-eating disease. The more you ponder it and the more negative you make it, the more you appear as if it negatively affects your life.

Herpes is my most minor health issue, but it's also the only contagious one, so she has a right to know about it. But since it's a minor one, then there's no reason to make it into a major one.

We had sex that night. Not too bad for my first time disclosing it!

 

[Reyaj]

I've only been with one woman since my first outbreak ended... that's because I'm still with her. And during my first outbreak, I had a fair number of plates spinning. Go figure.

Before I told her, I was already preparing myself for how to handle it. Internet research gives the low-down on things statistically, but message forums are your best friend when it comes to real-life experiences with it. It also helped that my brother has it, so I asked him some stuff about it.

When I brought it up, I just started off with "Do you have any health issues? I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours! " So she told me about a couple of small things. Then, I asked her if she ever dated anyone who gets cold sores. She answered in the negative and said "You mean the ones on your face, right?" I said "No, the ones down south." She was kinda surprised, but I told her the truth about it... "It's just an occasionally mildly irritating skin problem. My eczema is far more annoying than that, and it also won't kill me like my athsma almost did a couple of times."

All throughout the whole thing, I was confident about it. I made sure I didn't stick to the subject for very long, just enough to let her know I had it. I figured if I hammered the 5hit out of it, it would appear as if it's a major influence in my life. I also didn't want to paint it as a horribly disgusting flesh-eating disease. The more you ponder it and the more negative you make it, the more you appear as if it negatively affects your life.

Herpes is my most minor health issue, but it's also the only contagious one, so she has a right to know about it. But since it's a minor one, then there's no reason to make it into a major one.

We had sex that night. Not too bad for my first time disclosing it!

I gotcha. Did ever mention the word Herpes though? Honestly you're a better man than me. I probably would just refrain from having sex during an outbreak. I hear that when its dormant, its not really that contagious...