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Poetry?

Toushi

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Do girls really like poetry?

I write poetry (in Portuguese =/), and once, my Portuguese teacher saw a few of mine poems (well, they were in my Portuguese book, so it was kinda unavoidable), and asked me if she could read it to the class. I said so... That time, I got a lot of positive feedback from girls. :yes: One chick (with boyfriend... one very jealous) even came to me and said "that poem of yours made me melt". Lol, it felt good.
Oh, and there was a girl very interested in my poetry, as well as me, but she was a poetry reading nerd, so she does not counts. :nono:

So, in the few situations girls managed to listen/see my poems, it was in classes and stuff... Now, a lot of girls I know, don't even know I write poetry. How would girls feel about poetry, in general? I've got positive feedback.

Well, how about letting them see the poems? I guess just showing the poem it's kinda awkward.

Well, since girls seem to like my poetry I think it would be very, very useful to me. I'm just not sure about how to show my poetry to a girl. =/ Maybe... uhm... let her find them out writed in a ticket/card/book (you know... like when I wrote it was a strike of inspiration, lol), just like it was by mere chance.

Well, let me hear your thoughts about this and about poetry. :rockon:
 

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Vincent

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I think the general consensus for those kind of things is that if you can make it work then more power to you. Generally poetry is considered more of an AFC thing, but if you can do it while maintaining your masculinity then more power to you.
 

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I think the trick is to not put it on display, don't make a big deal about it with others. The turn off occurs when you become some artsy heart-on-your-sleeve type that's constantly writing. Be the masculine dude who has that tinge of a sensitive, poetic side.

Of course, that all depends on what kind of poetry you do.
 

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They like poetry...but don't use poetry as a way to attract them.
 
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