Went out tonight. Worked from working hard all day to go into a social vibe. Went up to the hottest girl in the club and talked to her. Got blown out a couple times, overall I had lots of fun and I feel good about myself. My friends and I got downright silly once our vibe got going.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pluto's 'Step-by-Step' Progress Journal
- Thread starter Plutoman
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I was able to execute going up to a mixed set tonight and ask "How do you guys know each other" Such an old like but I haven't tried talking to a mixed set forever. So I will give myself credit for getting the balls and cultivating some courage for doing this. Went out Friday and Saturday and approached a bunch.
I am starting to get the habit of being in a social state of mind or pimp state where ever I go. I went to the grocery store today. There was a 10 hanging out. I started a conversation. She laughed and if I would try to do it again, I would burn the set down and keep going, but baby steps. Being able to see an opportunity to get better at the skills of communication, courage, and of action. Then being able to execute it. That is what I am going to focus on this interaction. Next time burn the set down.
I felt more relaxed tonight. I have been out a ton and been rejected HARD. I still come back for more heh. I got a number tonight and girls seemed to be actually checking me out. I have been out for years, but I have been getting some looks lately. Good feeling. Trying always to get the skill not the girl. Then eventually get the girl haha.
I finished up foundations by Real Social Dynamics and I am listening to blue print. The basic thing I have always gotten is it takes 10,000 hours in this game to become a master. Go out a ton and get tons of reference points and you get better. Get the skills first and the girls will come. Anyway I went out tonight an was very comfortable in my own skin. I noticed about three weeks ago a complete lack of the anxiety that used to come from going out. It took me forever to get to this point, now talking to people is pretty easy. I have a decent opening line going and I have done well with eye contact and getting numbers. I try to move people to a different venue but that doesn't always work. Overall I am cool with my game and inner game. Obviously it took me forever to get to a level where I am at today and now the path is there to keep getting better and better. It took lots of inner work and lots of pain and struggle that is for sure.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.