"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Pluto's 'Step-by-Step' Progress Journal
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
rolling out my business, focusing on it, got some good friends. Girls come in and out. Most of them are crazy and go nowhere. Got two potential girls right now, two little sexy blonde girls. Workin' with a 3rd and seeing where it goes. One of them after today looks to be nuts, clingy, and odd, but smart... the other seems a little more outgoing and party-party type, but also fairly intelligent (first is pre-med, second is genetic biology... 19 and 18 respectively).
It all comes and goes. I just don't care. I focus on my life, girls will enter if they like it, otherwise, their loss. One of them will be cool enough for me to keep my focus and grab my attention, eventually. Who knows when that'll happen. As it is, I've kept my standards, too.. no 'curvy' girls for me.
Life's the ****. Make of it what you will. Work hard, focus your life, work out, eat reasonably well, follow your heart with your business (hey, at the worst, you'll get a good ol' gold diggin' ***** who'll make breakfast for ya in bed each day - at best, you'll get that minus the focus on money).
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Basically dropped a brazilian girl. Kind of a **** move - a week and a half ago, I hit her up, had her pay for a movie for us to see, went to her place, banged, and then I just left and haven't contacted her since.
Realizing that dating multiple girls is fun and all if you have money.. but I'm also realizing that time is better spent with girls I'm actually into and want to be around. The rest of the time - I'm better off building my own success in business, friends, and family.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Maybe starting off a little less intensely but then maintaining it could bring better results. Takes some serious focus though for sure.
I watched RSD videos and if I could get some nuggets of information out of those, then they are worth it. Yesterday I studied "Julian's" manifesto. I liked how crude and vile his language was. It ringed authentic to me. I loved how he wanted to focus on the middle part of interactions, not the opener. I liked how he wanted to make sure to NOT WASTE TIME WHEN HITTING ON A GIRL. Go, the time never gets better. Also I liked how he always invites a girl to an afterparty, if she freaks out when they are by themselves he just calls her a cab to leave.
Asking yourself whats the worst that can happen is a powerful technique to taking action when your fears are getting in the way.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Plutoman said:Hehe, another M-like situation. Pink = her, dubbed C, girl I was out with thursday. Hit her up day after because I like to plan ahead a bit w/ homework and other people.
Friday.
10:39am - "So what's your schedule look like?"
11:21am "I'm pretty busy this weekend and I don't know what my week looks like yet"
11:42am "Hmm alright"
Satuday.
6:32pm "[name], I am currently involved with someone else we aren't serious, but it's getting really confusing and I need to focus on that. I'm so sorry. I did have a really good time with you."
6:41pm "Cool, no problem."
I'm working on texting less. Big thing for this girl was very little texting. Anyways, next.
This situation points to me as some growth in the game. This hurt the first times I did things like this. When I put "Cool, no problem" and I enforced myself to move on and do something productive, then overtime I saw real results. With the time I used to spend sulking. I could watch self-improvement videos, or read this blog, or reflect where I have been. Good Job.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.