"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Plenty of Fish 'unable to hide or unhide profile' Fix

Zarky

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So the morons over at POF.com have been working for at least 6 months to figure out why some users' ability to hide or unhide their profiles is broken. When you go to "Edit Profile" there should be a little one-line link in the middle of the page saying "To hide/unhide your profile CLICK HERE." For many people this link is missing, meaning that if their profile is hidden they can't unhide it, and vice-versa.

There's a thread in the support forums with more than 14,000 views and 8 pages of complaints about this issue and yet the illustrious programmers can't even figure out their own HTML code to make it work right. The mods and admins have been so unhelpful that it's comedic, like some sort of incompetent bureaucratic Keystone Kops reel.

One person apparently posted a "link" several months ago that was probably the same as what's below, but the administrators of the site told the mods to take down the link and give a "lifetime ban" to anybody who reposts it. WTF? What kind of f*cked up sh*t is that? Which is why I'm posting it here and not there.

Anyway here's the fix, kludgy as it may be. Took me about 5 minutes to figure out. Simply log into your POF account and type in the following to your URL bar (or copy and paste):

To hide: http://www.pof.com/editprofile.aspx?HideProfile=1

To UNhide: http://www.pof.com/editprofile.aspx?HideProfile=0

You won't get any confirmation or anything. But I've tried it on a profile that doesn't have the problem and the line saying "To unhide your profile CLICK HERE" switches to "To hide your profile CLICK HERE" and back again, so that tells me it's working. And I tried it on a broken, hidden profile and now I'm getting some messages, so I believe it's not hidden anymore.

I guess it's not technically a "fix" to their ridiculous bug, but it is a workaround.

Try it.

EDIT:

This workaround absolutely works. You can see for yourself by searching for your username. If it's hidden, it won't show. UNhide it via the method above. Search again. You'll see it. If it's currently unhidden, do the opposite.

[The above text was originally posted on my blog, matingmarket.wordpress.com. Reposted here for a wider audience and better SEO.]
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If guys would put more effort in themselves instead of worrying about POF "hide and unhide" features they would have more things going for themselves with women.
 

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Starkwell said:
If guys would put more effort in themselves instead of worrying about POF "hide and unhide" features they would have more things going for themselves with women.
:crackup:

Speaking of which. I'm bored out of my mind since my girl is visiting her native country and wont be back in 2 weeks. I'm thinking of registering on POF for fun with my real pics and location and put something short and direct about me in the profile..

what are the chances of someone from my city such as my ex or friends see me? haha. Never try this before I thought just I try this as to pass some time and get some entertainment out of this.
 

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Starkwell said:
If guys would put more effort in themselves instead of worrying about POF "hide and unhide" features they would have more things going for themselves with women.
Real talk
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Starkwell said:
If guys would put more effort in themselves instead of worrying about POF "hide and unhide" features they would have more things going for themselves with women.
In Zarky's defense POF is a gold mine right now with the holiday tons of slores who are single who don't wanna be. I have a buddy who broke up with his girl two weeks ago and he has already gone on 7 dates of POF and smashed 3 of them!

However I agree with Starkwell POF should be only used to supplement your game not be the focus of it, too many guys on this site put all their energy on pof. Newsflash that girl you hit it on late night on POF, who you are texting, is succing my **** at the end of the night whom I met on the field! and shes texting you again the next morning like nothing happend!

true story I've seen this!

:eek:
 

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Solomon said:
In Zarky's defense POF is a gold mine right now with the holiday tons of slores who are single who don't wanna be. I have a buddy who broke up with his girl two weeks ago and he has already gone on 7 dates of POF and smashed 3 of them!

However I agree with Starkwell POF should be only used to supplement your game not be the focus of it, too many guys on this site put all their energy on pof. Newsflash that girl you hit it on late night on POF, who you are texting, is succing my **** at the end of the night whom I met on the field! and shes texting you again the next morning like nothing happend!

true story I've seen this!

:eek:

Santa Solomon the POF slore "stocking stuffer".

Suppliment only. No wifey material on there. Get their number as quick as you can, meet, escalate, pump and dump and on to the next.

It's quick and easy. You can get a bunch of chicks off there besides going out and meeting chicks in real life. Takes about an hour of your day if that.

Side note: I saw somewhere you like rap battles Solomon?

Youtube: Arsonal vs. Shotty Horra. (The shotty dude is pretty good but hard to understand as he's got a thick UK accent.) Arsonal is a friggin BEAST.

Also check out head ice vs. pat stay. Great battle.

And look out for Bigg K from VA. He's got several wins no losses and just tore up some kid Half past 7 on the URL proving grounds. I think he's going up against Rosenburg Raw and or Pooh bear next. (Bigg K has a pretty strong buzz out there now.)

I love watching those videos.
 

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Thanks for your wisdom, Mr. 17 Posts.

Actually, this is now my 20th post. If you haven't noticed, I haven't been here that long and I don't post that often. How many posts do I need to acquire in your opinion before I can reach great wisdom?

I don't have anything against online dating, but too many guys, such as yourself, take it way too seriously, and spend too much time online instead of meeting women in person, where you can have better results.

Why would you care if you can "hide/unhide" yourself on POF? Isn't the purpose of online dating to be seen by lots of women so they can contact you and eventually meet up with you? Why would you want to hide? Do you hide from women if you go out to a bar or wherever you go out in public to meet them?

Online dating is the same as offline except you establish the contact over a computer instead. You still have to have game to move any further from initial contact.

Too many guys spend hours online sending women tons of unfunny copy and paste emails waiting to get messages back. Most of the women on that site look horrible and you wouldn't even want to be seen with them. The women you write to might not even look like the pictures they post or might not even be a woman at all lol. Most of these chicks have issues, relationship, family problems, ex husbands & bf's, ex drug addicts etc, so spending all that time trying to get them out would be better served offline, because at least you can see what you're actually getting.

Imagine spending all that time writing to go out with a chick and she turns out to be fat or older than what she posted online. That's why social networking are better because women update their pictures often and have more of them, and you get a better picture of who she really is.

5 old pics from 3 or 4 years ago and a paragraph telling you how witty, funny, sarcastic, spontaneous, adventurous she is along with having a great job, family, and that she likes to travel and hike isn't telling you much. Most of the time it isn't even true about what they say.

online dating should be used for getting extra chicks but shouldnt invest too much time because the chicks aren't that great and you can do a lot better with the quality of women offline.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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And now you're up to 25 posts. Guess that makes you an expert and gives you license to tell people how they should and shouldn't bang chicks. Congrats.
 

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Let me just say once again, that is you want to meet a quality girl, then POF is not the place for you. A place for damaged goods and women with issues is what you will get. There is no need to spend hours spamming low quailty women with unfunny copy and paste messages hoping they will write you back. Anybody worried about hide/unhide features is taking this site way too seriously and it should be used for hook ups only, but then, again, with the lousy quality of women frequenting that site, and their states of mind, it probably isn't worth the bother.


Zarky said:
And now you're up to 25 posts. Guess that makes you an expert and gives you license to tell people how they should and shouldn't bang chicks. Congrats.

I'm glad that you are keeping track of my number of posts. You know my number better than I do. Like I said before, I don't post often so my number of posts will always be low.

What does the number of posts have to do with someone giving good advice or not? Someone can sit on here all day and post everyday and get over thousands of posts racked up. Doesn't mean what they have to say is any good. i've seen people with thousands of posts have nothing much to say or give weak advice and others with a smaller number give great advice. It's the person that can give good advice and not how many posts you have.

So, what number do I need to to acquire to achieve great wisdom?

You didn't answer any of my questions, but you are taking the site way too seriously and seem to be really sensitive.

Never said how guys "should and shouldn't bang chicks", but if I do, I hope that you read my post about it. All I said was that you shouldn't spend too much time online chasing after low quality women when you can be out meeting better quality women. At least you can see who they are and know what they look like, unlike online where you don't know and can get disappointed by having a chick be 30 pounds overweight or you might not even be spamming a chick at all lol. Nothing wrong with good online game but if you take it too seriously and spend too much time on there you are limiting your abilities to meet better women.
 
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