"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hi guys just want to thank you all for creating this great community. I just joined yesterday and was waiting on admin to post, didnt know u had to activate over email lol. Anyways although i was hesitant to sign up here and ask for help I decided i care too much for myself.

I am a young cat, only 20 years old and need some help with approaching women. Whats funny to me is that I am good looking, hip, in decent shape and have a great sense of humor. I am the kind of person you see and think he must get girls left and right Im trying to be honest here so please dont take my comments as arrogance. So yeah I am me and although i should i dont get women. Of course logic tells me thats cause you dont really try so i dont have anyone to blame but me. I hate this life without women and want to change it now.

For me approaching is a scary thing that i cant seem to get over. Its like im nervous before approaching and know that when i talk to her it will be so obvious. I care about what people think and dont want to get embarrassed, but then again who does. Every time i seem to get myself to go out and approach, i get all dressed up and head to the mall. When i get there i walk around and look and cant seem to find the perfect opportunity, although i dont think such thing exist. Its like i say to myself "okay shes with a friend, cant talk to her" or "too many people around here if she turns me down...." or the usual " im nervous now i shouldnt go up to here and make a fool".

I am a very logical person so i like to think out my actions. Even if i manage to talk to her, i get worried on what the hell i will say since i did it once and really had a hard time of thinking of stuff to say.

If anyone could please help me out with a detailed description not just a one liner or a bashful comment. Oh yeah i also wanted to mention that if anyone is in the san jose area of california contact me so we can meetup. Willing to drive an hour or so so dont hesitate if you in cuts of Oakland or San leandro.
I was thinking it would be a great idea to get together with one person who is a mack or multiple people and hit up a hot spot to teach other stuff and fine tune each other. Well hope someone replies and takes me up on the offer.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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get a job at A&Fitch..this job make you pratice conversation with clients, girls work there. This make you less shy. These neviroment make you less pressure (not pick up state), just casual conversation to break your shyness

Join some co-ed sport..whatever you activities you do, make sure you surround with women...go with have fun attitude, make women friends..etc

Don't go directly to dating mentality yet, it will come. Build your confidence..

There no magic line (some cook book but it only help you in some cases). If you b8uild a solid fondation ( confidence, humor, have fun in life) thing will comes.

Read DJ bible
 

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come on peopel comment please i want to hear from all u

thanks for the two comments i got but i want more 38 people saw and only 2 replied. Dont hesitate to hit me up guys stop just reading and help out too if you can. Once i get my stuff in line ill be sure to help people out myself.

And oh yeah crimsonking man whats up man i saw you posted last night and noticed you live close by. I lost your username and couldnt find it anymore but was thinking the same thing. Gllad you read my post, i dont know why i cant seem to do messaging but i emailed moderator. Ill just give you my email [email protected] hit me up, matter fact anyone that wants to hit me up even if you dont live by me.
 
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