Ok, short version:
Met a girl online. Dated her a week and a half ago. Date was pretty awesome. She invited me to go to another place for drinks after the first place we were at. We were having a great time, started talking about food and stuff and I asked her if she had been to this particular place, and then asked her if she wanted to go there with me sometime. ( I virtually never ask a woman out again while on the first date ) She said yes, she would love to. After I walked her back to her place, she mentioned going out again, asked me how I liked to be contacted, etc.
She said she was going to visit a friend for a week ( I thought I remembered her saying she'd be back on the 4th ) and that she would have a small window before her parents were in town visiting her. At the time she seemed down for trying to fit it into the window.
I didn't message her at all after the date, since I had already asked her out and she had already said yes. I did get a very very brief message from her while she was on vacation, and I responded later that day by text with a very brief message. After that, radio silence on both ends.
So, yesterday, being the 6th, I'm trying to figure out what's going on with her. Is she back yet? Are we still on? I dated another woman while she was gone, but I really wanted to know where I stood, so I could figure out my schedule.
I decided to text her briefly and see if I could get some information. What I ended up getting back was not a lot to go on really.
Me: Hey __ I hope you made it home safely! I'd still like to go to ____ with you. When would be a good time?
Her: ( 20 hours later ) Just got back. Had an intense time! Yes, I would like to go out with you again, also. ( as she had already told me -> ) My family is visiting me from the 10 - 20th and then I'm back to Europe for a week before I'm back here. So anything before Sep 10th will be tight I guess. Have a nice weekend!
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Ok, so, what's happening here? There's a bit of mixed signals happening. Yes, I want to see you again, but making this window is going to be tight ( I guess ? )
Translation, I doubt I'd be able to see you again before I get back from Europe in three weeks. Read between the lines: I have some free time before my parents get here, but you're not my priority. However, I want to keep you on the line as an option if my other date (s) this weekend don't pan out.
She didn't really answer my question directly "When would be a good time?"
So now I'm left sort of hanging again.
What do you guys think here? And what would you do next?
Do I:
A. Press for a date before the family arrives.
B. Reply later with a simply reply ( not even sure what yet )
( AFC = Oh, gee whiz, sorry I can't see you before the 10th, I'll be waiting for three weeks, hoping that you'll want to see me and that you'll contact me when you get back. )
C. Blow her off now and go NC and wait and see if she contacts me down the line.
D. ?
Met a girl online. Dated her a week and a half ago. Date was pretty awesome. She invited me to go to another place for drinks after the first place we were at. We were having a great time, started talking about food and stuff and I asked her if she had been to this particular place, and then asked her if she wanted to go there with me sometime. ( I virtually never ask a woman out again while on the first date ) She said yes, she would love to. After I walked her back to her place, she mentioned going out again, asked me how I liked to be contacted, etc.
She said she was going to visit a friend for a week ( I thought I remembered her saying she'd be back on the 4th ) and that she would have a small window before her parents were in town visiting her. At the time she seemed down for trying to fit it into the window.
I didn't message her at all after the date, since I had already asked her out and she had already said yes. I did get a very very brief message from her while she was on vacation, and I responded later that day by text with a very brief message. After that, radio silence on both ends.
So, yesterday, being the 6th, I'm trying to figure out what's going on with her. Is she back yet? Are we still on? I dated another woman while she was gone, but I really wanted to know where I stood, so I could figure out my schedule.
I decided to text her briefly and see if I could get some information. What I ended up getting back was not a lot to go on really.
Me: Hey __ I hope you made it home safely! I'd still like to go to ____ with you. When would be a good time?
Her: ( 20 hours later ) Just got back. Had an intense time! Yes, I would like to go out with you again, also. ( as she had already told me -> ) My family is visiting me from the 10 - 20th and then I'm back to Europe for a week before I'm back here. So anything before Sep 10th will be tight I guess. Have a nice weekend!
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Ok, so, what's happening here? There's a bit of mixed signals happening. Yes, I want to see you again, but making this window is going to be tight ( I guess ? )
Translation, I doubt I'd be able to see you again before I get back from Europe in three weeks. Read between the lines: I have some free time before my parents get here, but you're not my priority. However, I want to keep you on the line as an option if my other date (s) this weekend don't pan out.
She didn't really answer my question directly "When would be a good time?"
So now I'm left sort of hanging again.
What do you guys think here? And what would you do next?
Do I:
A. Press for a date before the family arrives.
B. Reply later with a simply reply ( not even sure what yet )
( AFC = Oh, gee whiz, sorry I can't see you before the 10th, I'll be waiting for three weeks, hoping that you'll want to see me and that you'll contact me when you get back. )
C. Blow her off now and go NC and wait and see if she contacts me down the line.
D. ?
