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[steve_erkle]

Hey guys
I have a big problem that I'm pretty embarassed to post but i will anyway.
I am a good looking guy with pretty good game. I'm in highschool and pretty popular. Girls throw themselves at me (hot ones too). However i dont do anything about it, and here's why:
My problem is that i had a small birthmark a few inches above my d*ck, and had a procedure done to get rid of it because i was so self conscious of it. Now, after the procedure was done they had to stitch it up a little until the area healed. The doc told me to come back in 2 weeks to get the stitches out and i waited too long, so the area scabbed and scarred.

Now i have a scar, not too big in area, but it sticks out and is light bright purple on my white skin. It looks so ****ty and I won't show anybody. I have so many chances with girls but because of this i can't take them. this is kinda destroying my social life because i think if i hang out with girls theyre going to want me and its gonna lead to that and they will see that scar and tell everyone..

I know this sounds ridiculous, but its not an average scar: it sticks out and is soo ugly. I currently use Mederma every day , as well as Vitamin E but its not really improving. I have so much potential and this is taking away from my happiness. Please help me guys- this is so important to me.

 

[Relationship-Buddy]

No one says that you have to strip naked when you're with a girl...
Keep your boxers on and use the front hole.

Also, can the scar be masked at all (with a bit of hair growth)?


Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy

 

[steve_erkle]

thanks for the replies guys. I actually understand what you guys are saying but its hard for me to actually think like this. I mean this isnt just a scar , its like a little purple lump.

bro i can promise you now that if i had a magic cream, and it got rid of the mark, you would just go and find another thing to feel self conscious about.

you have to change the things that can be changed, and forget the things that cant..like height, or race...

stop blaming your lack of game on your scar. your lack of game is from lack of experience.

just forget about it, and as shezz would say:
sarge on

thanks bro. you're right, but this makes me feel ****ty about my body so I figured if there was something i could do about it it would make me more comfortable with myself.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Pretty much every girl in the world is insecure about her own body. They would prefer to have sex in the dark so that you don't see them naked, either.

 

[Five To One]

I got a pretty bad cut on my shoulder a couple years ago and when if finally healed it left a partially raised scar, it doesnt cover the entire scar, its just in the middle of it and its a bump, kinda discolored against my skin and pretty hard feeling, sounds similar to what you may have?

I was going to get this procedure done, its pretty simiple, you may want to look into it. dermabration

but then I decided its not worth my money, maybe ill have a buddy just use a belt sander next time im really drunk

Hope I helped

 

[steve_erkle]

I'm pretty sure my pubic hair wouldnt cover it. Plus i hate having a bush anyway

I got a pretty bad cut on my shoulder a couple years ago and when if finally healed it left a partially raised scar, it doesnt cover the entire scar, its just in the middle of it and its a bump, kinda discolored against my skin and pretty hard feeling, sounds similar to what you may have?

I was going to get this procedure done, its pretty simiple, you may want to look into it. dermabration

but then I decided its not worth my money, maybe ill have a buddy just use a belt sander next time im really drunk

Hope I helped

Thanks for the suggestion man. I was looking into surgical methods but decided that cosmetic procedures were not my thing after the birthmark thing went wrong.



Anyone else have any suggestions?

 

[touge]

Scars and **** make a person unique?
Most people aren't really affected by birth scars or stitch scars, they actually sorta look cool I reckon.
Insecurities should be gotten over dude, you're just paranoid .

 

[jon3947]

Dude its not that bad, I have a 4 inch scar on my stomach from surgery when i was a baby, it is a quarter inch deep and people notice it every time i go without a shirt on, i also have a two inch scar on my stomach that is a half an inch wide, but i never thought people cared if you had a scar or not until you posted this.

I also have hearing aids, and scoliosis (spine curvature) so i have to wear a plastic brace around my stomach, but i still catch girls staring at me all the time. The trick is to be confident and happy and not give a **** about it, I used to wonder are girls staring at me because of my looks or because of my hearing aids, but i got over that and now i am much happier and much much more confident.

If a girl asks about your scar just say it was from surgery and they wont give a crap, a lot of the girls you know probably have an embarassing scar themselves

 

[suavesuave]

if they dont want u for what u r that means they dont love u.

 

[steve_erkle]

yeah.. most of you guys are right. It's just hard for me to accept it. I have a sh1tload of scars in other places and i dont give a sh1t but having one like 2 inches above my **** in clear sight is what bothers me. a raised purple scar..

 

[HandyAndy]

Maybe you should just tell her the truth
theres nothing nasty about a birthmark

 

[Dragon]

LOL... oh sh!t, that is so funny steve, because I had a hernia operation about 2 inches above my d!ck and I always use my scar as an excuse for women to "see it" and "touch it". OMG... I never even thought of it as ugly. It's a conversational peace and an excuse to get women hot.

 

[daygameguy]

LOL... oh sh!t, that is so funny steve, because I had a hernia operation about 2 inches above my d!ck and I always use my scar as an excuse for women to "see it" and "touch it". OMG... I never even thought of it as ugly. It's a conversational peace and an excuse to get women hot.

I have a surgery mark on my stomach - 4 inches wide, 1 inch deep. doesn't matter.... as long you keep your d1ck clean and strong, nothing else matters.:rock:

 

[Caferacer]

No one says that you have to strip naked when you're with a girl...
Keep your boxers on and use the front hole.

Also, can the scar be masked at all (with a bit of hair growth)?


Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy

LMAO.

Maybe he can just unzip his fly and go to work that way.

Dude, my legs are covered in stretch marks from lifting and I don't give a ****. If you get the point where you CAN be naked with a girl, having a scar is not going to stop whatever is going to happen.

 

[BlakeW5]

Dude, scars are tattoos with better stories.

If chicks are already attracted to you and throwing themselves at you, a scar isn't going to matter. If anything they're lucky to get to see your scar.

 

[touge]

speaking of which i saw a girl get off the train and she had a pretty long scar on her elbow and i reckon it looked cool. Just adding that extra touch of uniqueness. I wonder how she got it.. should've asked lol

 

[window]

I'd say that the scar is more than just that. You probably have some phsycological stuff going on regarding it. Cause when you removed the birth mark the negative stuff in your mind will still be there. If your with a girl for the first time you can just make a joke about it something like your last girlfriend was violent in bed...remember man, lifes too short to worry about **** like this. When your six feet under there aint going to be no scar.

 

[steve_erkle]

You guys really helped me a lot with this. Mentally i feel a lot better about the scar and you know what, fxck it! If im naked with a girl i'm pretty sure she wont care if i have a scar a few inches above my ****. Im gonna keep using mederma and vitamin E , but in the meantime, idgaf! thanks bros!

This his been holding me back for months and now im good!

 

[Cashew]

you seem to have improved about your outlook, but I'll post anyway.

When I was younger I had an infection that got underneath the skin on my penis. I had to have surgery to remove the infection and they cut into me in three different places. I have a scar ON my penis. But this has never been a problem for any of the girls who go down on me or let me inside of them.

It's actually an interesting bit of conversation from time to time when I talk about it and can (somewhat) jokingly say, "I'll have to show you [my scar] sometime."