"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey guys, I'm going to make this short & sweet. Listen, I know you're all busy & I totally resepect that, but I ask you to please take five minutes out of your lives to help me.

I stopped seeing this chick, after I muffed up by telling friends of mine or her's that we slept together. She wanted it to remain a secret, but I was too excited not to tell anyone, pathetic, I know. Anyways, I can't stop thinking about her, she's TOTALLY over me & hasn't talked to me in a month, but I'm still obssessed with her.

Please spare some advice, tips or tricks in how to get over a girl completly, this is important, it's been affecting my health.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Take in a hobby or something new to get ur mind off it.........or tell her u secretly video taped it and was going to sell it for 3.75
 

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Work out, find new girls, get wasted and nail some hotty
 

S-lemond

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does she have a good friend??? thats a door way...try it
 

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Get more involved in sports, hobbies, girls.... get rid of all the sh!t you have that reminds you of her. Pictures, notes, screenames EVERYTHING.

It's just one girl..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It is impossible to get rid of everything that will remind you of her, because there are so many subtle things... Hell I was playing Rome Total War last night and invaded to the north and came across a town which was simply a girls name and brought up memories which I was trying to forget by distracting myself with the damn game. I invaded and slaughtered them all, that made me feel better so its all good.:crackup:


Time is the only way you are going to get over it, and try to think of faults that she had so you may seem less interested in her and view her as beneath you. Then just go for others and she will soon be forgotten.
 

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A dj never obsesses over a girl. Lets be honest, you ****ed up.... If she wanted the fact that you two slept together to remain a secret, you should have at least respected that. And to begin with the fact that she wanted it to remain a secret might have mean that she wasnt completly into you to begin with, and you completly destroyed your chances with her bc she lost her trust in you... restoring her trust in you is pretty hard and the fact that you bragged about sleeping with her is irreversible....

Id get on with my life and just find some other girl.
 

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Originally posted by arutha
It is impossible to get rid of everything that will remind you of her, because there are so many subtle things... Hell I was playing Rome Total War last night and invaded to the north and came across a town which was simply a girls name and brought up memories which I was trying to forget by distracting myself with the damn game. I invaded and slaughtered them all, that made me feel better so its all good.:crackup:


Time is the only way you are going to get over it, and try to think of faults that she had so you may seem less interested in her and view her as beneath you. Then just go for others and she will soon be forgotten.
you need to get out more
 

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I agree I got rid of most of my AFCishness by just fnding something that didn't involve girls at all: computers. But finding a hobby is the best way to get over a girl and actually a great way to meet new people. And while maybe you can't hande reminders of a girl I usually use it to remind myself occasionly that I used to be a chump. I was crazy about a girl for about a year and I got over it because I only saw her once in my life and after that I never talked to her except a few times on the phone but for a year I just kept o thinking about her. But now I am so DJ and not AFC and I still have her number. I might call her. lol not becaus long distance is a bitc*.

So get a hobby.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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the reason i started studying the ways of the DJ was because of a situation similar to yours. my advice is: once its over its over, it might take some time to get over her but in the end it will be a lot sweeter if you get your ass up and meet someone new
 
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