"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Please, just try this.

Sammo

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This post will be a collection of mixed feelings, if somehow you can trap what im trying to give you from this post then i promise you that you will show more improvement then you have done ever before.

Recently, my cousin passed away. He was only 6 years old. I had a brother die for the same reasons, and i almost died from the same reasons. I was lucky enough to get a second chance, we are all lucky to have a chance.

We owe to people like my cousin and my brother to make the most out of life, to change, to improve. Just look at all of those people out there who whinge and whine. They have nothing to complain about, they have functional body's and the potential to get anything they want out of life.

My mother has been through the most having lost her father and supporting 2 younger sisters and her mother with hardly any money. The other day I asked her what her favourite quote was and she replied almost instantly with "I cried because i had no shoes, then i saw a man with no feet", at first i dismissed it as just another quote but then i noticed it was a reflection of her spirit and will.

Next time you feel unmotivated, next time you feel like giving up then ***** slap yourself and wake up. Think about those people who dont get to experience life, think about those people who never got the chance to live. It's in memory of those people that carries me forth into the unknown, i do what i do because of them, i owe it to them to plunge forth.

I leave you with one of my personal favourite songs, Greenday "Time of your life"

Another turning point , a fork stuck in the road .
Time grabs you by the wrist , directs you where to go.
So make the best of this test , and don't ask why.
It's not a question , but a lesson learned in time .
It's something unpredictable , but in the end is right .
I hope you had the time of your life .
So take the photographs , and still frames in your mind .
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time .
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial .
For what it's worth , it was worth all the while .
It's something unpredictable , but in the end is right .
I hope you had the time of your life .
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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1) I'm back. :)

2) Why do people miss awesome posts like this? :(

3) Sammo, you made me cry. On the inside. This was brilliant. :cry: :up:

Seriously, girls should not be one of your "problems." Like that song goes, "I got 100 problems but a ***** ain't one." Be grateful for your life. Be grateful for what you have. Take advantage of what you've been given and do somethign great with it.

Awesome smileys by the way.
 

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Next time you feel unmotivated, next time you feel like giving up then ***** slap yourself and wake up.
I'm sorry for what happened to you Sammo I don't know what it feels like because it has never happened to me but by sharing you thoughts on this you provide the board with the above quote which is, in my opinion one of the cornerstones of success and a great reminder to reality. If you can do what that quote says you're already a f/*ing great guy.
 

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This post moved me. And still today it remains as powerful.
 

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Missed this first time. A sorrowful event, but an awesome post.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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From the minute you are born, the threat of dying is always there.

It's something that you need to recognize and, for me, I use it as motivation to approach women, among other things.

Good post.
 

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You deserve the best.
 

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seriously, great post... i think most of us can relate
 

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sayings to live by
1.life is too short to have enemies(makes you look bad with women anyways)
2. you never know what you have till you lose it
3.up with hope down with dope(girls dont find that stuff attractive)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Great post man!
Life sure is precious...:rolleyes:
 

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... good post...
 

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First of all, I love that song (time of your life). Secondly, I'm gona have to try this now, I had a baby brother die when he was only 2 days old, he never had the chance to live his life. Wasn't something I ever thought about before, glad you brought it up.
 
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