Please help

[visnaga]

I was engaged to a girl for about a year. Before our engagement, one day she told me that she does not want anyone in her life so I left her and she begged to come back for 2 weeks but I refused.

After that, she appeared happy without me and missed her so I tried to return to her but she kept refusing that I begged so many times until she accepted to return together. I asked her why has she told me that she did not want anyone in her life, she told me that I did not appear happy with her and I was not loving her enough and she did not mean it.

Anyways, I told her that these words (she does not want anyone) or similar words will let me lose her immediately even if she is not meaning it and she agreed.

After our engagement, everything was cool for a while and then she started saying the same words (she does not want me and so) when we fight (said it about 4 times), and every time I remain patient and calm and inform her that I love her and she remains in the relationship.

She started to control me, like when to go out, what to wear, and sometimes I did what she asked as she told me she is just doing it because she cares about me. Also, sometimes she told me she is not happy and she do not like to talk to me about her personal issues. I made a big mistake also by telling her a lot of my insecurities and leaning emotionally on her so much.

Our last fight, she insulted me on phone, hang up on me twice, told me she does not want me and go to hell and the problem all that was in front of her parents. I told her to calm down and then talk but she refused and told me it is over.

After 2 days she called me and begged me to return but I refused.

After 2 months I tried to contact her and told her I still love her and begged a little until she accepted to return together but on her conditions and I accepted.

Just 4 days and she told me she feels no love for me and she does not want me and she feels guilty.

This is my story and I am trying now to forget about her but I really sometimes feel so bad she could be with someone else.

Please advise me with I should have done and what is the right thing to do now.




Thanks

 

[jurry]

Y'all are both crazy haha must have been some great sex I bet though.

It is definitely over and she probably just felt alone when you guys broke up and wanted you back so she would beg for you back and then feel guilty about having done that to you and around and around it went. Go out and meet some new girls!

 

[Frogster]

Go Ghost. Next. Never look back.

 

[visnaga]

I feel so bad and I am really trying to be better but sometimes I feel there no use. Is this normal?

 

[sylvester the cat]

I feel so bad and I am really trying to be better but sometimes I feel there no use. Is this normal?

Yes. It's like coming off smack. You can do it if you persevere.

 

[VikingKing]

She was using you man. The golden rule: the one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship.

For 90% (Or more) of western women, or any culture influenced by feminism, you have to not treat them to well and they will love you for it. They will submit.

Treat them like sh!t and they will stick to you like mud.

There is nothing wrong with marriage or monogamous relationships, but it has to be with a woman who was raised properly and taught by her parents to be respectful to men. Look at the married men on here. You know who is probably the happiest married man? Livefreex.

These western women are not good for a serious relationship. Maybe a few are, but like 1%.

Everything I just read in your post reveals the fact that you don't have enough self respect, or love yourself.

If you don't love yourself, or respect yourself, how can you expect some one to love you, or respect you? And if you don't love yourself, its foolish to think some one would love you.

A woman that is not corrupted by feminism will stick by you and tolerate minimal afcness to an extent. But you have to be a god dam.ned man.

You can be selfish in a healthy way. You can be kind and polite with out being a weak doormat. You can be an as$hole with out being cruel and sadistic.

Read, learn, and apply. Anti-dump is a valuable resource.

 

[VikingKing]

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[jurry]

What if a dominant woman turns you on? I love when a girl uses her sexiness to control me in bed or even win an argument kind of thing. It certainly depends on the girl and some I've been very dominant with because thats just the way it made sense but I always kinda feel like if I dominated them eh theres no more challenge and ill turn sadistic on them (amazing sex there too though lol) and that seems pretty unhealthy as you mentioned.

 

[visnaga]

Thanks so much, but please tell me from my story, where did I go wrong so I do not make these mistakes again..

 

[VikingKing]

What if a dominant woman turns you on? I love when a girl uses her sexiness to control me in bed or even win an argument kind of thing. It certainly depends on the girl and some I've been very dominant with because thats just the way it made sense but I always kinda feel like if I dominated them eh theres no more challenge and ill turn sadistic on them (amazing sex there too though lol) and that seems pretty unhealthy as you mentioned.

Then thats your choice. It's not natural, and in the long run you will be miserable.

Fix yourself and you will be happy, in the longterm.

 

[JoeMarron]

What if a dominant woman turns you on? I love when a girl uses her sexiness to control me in bed or even win an argument kind of thing. It certainly depends on the girl and some I've been very dominant with because thats just the way it made sense but I always kinda feel like if I dominated them eh theres no more challenge and ill turn sadistic on them (amazing sex there too though lol) and that seems pretty unhealthy as you mentioned.

Lol unless you want a butch lesbian you're not going to find a dominant woman who you'll also want to fvck. Men are dominant, women are submissive, that's the natural order. Now sure you can tell a chick to dominate you in bed every now and then but in the grand scheme of a relationship you need to be the dominant one.

visnaga, you went wrong the second you decided to take her back. Then you went wrong again by groveling to her to take you back. You went even more wrong by putting up with the same bullsh!t that caused you to leave her in the first place. No man who respects himself should put up with this kind of drama. Read all of this. You have much to learn.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

http://therationalmale.com/

http://www.mts.net/~bpony/djbible/

 

[jurry]

I'm not saying you're gona let a girl walk all over you but a man wants a challenge just as much as a woman does. Thats the nature of a healthy relationship. To say that men are always one way and women are always another is just absurd absolutist garbage.

 

[3agle 3yes]

...please tell me from my story, where did I go wrong so I do not make these mistakes again..

People telling you where you went wrong isn't going to help you, you need to understand what to do yourself.

Read, watch and listen to as many things as you can concerning game, being a man etc.

 

[JoeMarron]

I'm not saying you're gona let a girl walk all over you but a man wants a challenge just as much as a woman does. Thats the nature of a healthy relationship. To say that men are always one way and women are always another is just absurd absolutist garbage.

Of course they aren't always one way but there's no point in making rules based on the exception. Men are dominant, women are submissive. It's the same thing as saying men are stronger than women. Sure there are incredibly strong women out there but the odds are if you take a random man and a random woman the man is going to be stronger. Generally speaking, there are few women out there who want to play the dominant role in a relationship. Now if you're just talking about a strong willed chick who will speak her mind but is still willing to let the man take the lead then that's more common.