"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Please help !! worst situation ever !

youngmack

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So about a year ago i finally got my first girlfriend at age 15(im now 16 turning 17 in a few months). I was soo hype because i wasn't really experienced with girls or anything. I told myself since this is my first girlfriend i wont mess anything up and try to make things perfect.Shes the"flirty independent" type of girls that loves to flirt around and has everything in life going great for her.Shes also very social and outgoing.We dated for about one and a half month, and i really LIKED her but throughout the relationship she didn't show much interest and one time she told me that she flirted with a boy and went to his house..but did nothing sexual. she ended up breaking up with me and i was HEARTBROKEN...i cried my eyes out but i acted like it didn't phase me even though i was basically in love with her.we remained friends and hanged out for a little.Then we kinda lost contact.

Months passed and all i did was think about her.It was not one day i havent thought about her no matter what i did. And im still like this now.Then one day she texts me and we start talking aagain and she tells me that she had a boyfriend for about 8 months and they broke up recently. i was shocked and hurt again.but we started tlking more and more and we soon developed this kinda "playful bf/gf" relationship where we would flirt with each other and call each other "baby" and stuff even though i never told her how i really felt about her because i didn't have the guts too.We continued this little thing for a while until finally i grew the balls to tell her how i really felt, and i finally did.When i told her she really said nothing and we just continued doing what we were doing,but she would tell me how she likes me but she dosent want a boyfriend anymore.she really gave me signs that she actually liked me. Overtime we developed into "friends with benefits"...We would occasionally kiss and stuff.

About a month ago she invited me over to her house and we made out and i even gave her oral sex...The next day i text her and she lets me know that she didnt really like me (she thought she did) and that she dosent want to continue doing what we were doing, and we can no longer flirt or kiss. I was HEARTBROKEN AGAIN AND I CRIED. I CRIED LIKE EVERYDAY THAT WEEK THINKING ABOUT HOW SHE PLAYED ME FOR A FOOL.

PLEASE help guys what should i do? All i do is THINK ABOUT HER EVERYDAY,EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY NO MATTER WHAT I AM DOING.I have sex with other girls and try to occupy myself by working out and concentratiing on school but it dosent work(oh and she attends my school and everytime i see her my heart literally skips a beat and i get butterflies in my stomach. Its been a full year and i have still not gotten over this girl. Im infatuated with her. I decided to do no contact and on the third day she texted me and i replied like the sucker i am .... PLEASE HELP!!!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're an emotional tampon.

How can you stand to have her hormonal vagina blood saturated through your body? And you've been taking it for so long, and didn't have the good sense to avoid the position when it was reoffered to you.

Even though her other boyfriend had her for 8 MONTHS and you had her for 1.5, somehow you still think she would prefer to get back together with you over him. It's not true, you're around until someone interesting shows up.

Find another girl, this one isn't so important.
 

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i understand this,but i dont know how to get over her or cure this "oneitis"...its really killing me slowly
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I know what has solved this for me about 3 times in the past. You need to get completely over her. You need there to be nothing unsaid and left undone. Have a chat with her, or do it however you want. Just say and do what you need to say and do. By this I don't mean to force anything, just finish this.

For me, it has been weird things like, "It's weird how you want what you can't have. blahblah weird sh1t." over Facebook. She was like WTF? And I probably won't hook up with her again, but I felt SO GOOD afterwards and have never thought of her since.
Sometimes you just need a reality check.

And you really do fvck other chicks and get good results from the gym?
 

youngmack

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Yesss i have had sex with about three other girls and have plenty of crushes on me i just cant let go of her....Shes your typical "Alpha Female" just that shes 17 years old.. Again what should i do? Sometimes i even think about pursuing her since i have read a bunch of articles on sosuave.com and the dj bible.
 

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You're a ****ING idiot, this is the sixth time posting the exact same thread. are you mentally retarded or just plain stupid. someone ban this troll
 

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I feel for you. I've been there before and it SUCKS!!! It took me a couple of years to get over this one girl but the way I see it is that you have a couple of choices. One option is to cut her off. You deserve respect and not to be played with like that. Who is she to do that? Mess with me once.....ok. Mess with me twice.........go to hell. The second option is that you can give her a taste of her own medicine but in classier way. Tell her you're busy with other things in you life, like the gym and other girls you've been humping.

Trust me, it doesn't seem like it now but she can and will be replaced....
 
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