Please help with problem

[jungleman pete]

Hi everyone. I've made a few posts in the past and appreciate all your feedback. Reflecting now, all those posts that I made were totally full of sh*t. I was asking a lot of questions about whether or not a womens appearance matters and should change your approach. I was way off the mark. And completely wrong. As i've made a couple more approaches I've found that the only thing that matters is whats going on inside your own head. If she likes you, she likes you. Her clothing, whatever is meaningless. Heck, I wear differant clothes and jewellary all the time, doesnt change who I am. You live and learn.

Now, I have a problem thats been brewing for a long, long time now. I'm going to come out and admit something i've never told anyone. I'm a 26 year old virgin. I've never had a girlfriend and only been on a very small handful of dates.

I've had quite a few medical problems over my life time and spent a bit of time in hospitals. Although no where near enough to justify the above statement. I've spent a lifetime feeling sorry for myself and unhappy with my appearance. But, apon reflecting, its just not true anymore. I'm not a great looking guy, but there honestly isnt anything wrong with me.

I've been reading this site for a while and I have to tell you, it has the greatest advice going around. I've stopped feeling bad for myself, lightened up a lot to the point where I would definitely say i'm fun to be around. And my whole attitude to women has changed immensly. I used to have extreme oneitis. I'd see a girl i'd like and i'd fall head over heels. Not anymore. There are so many chicks out there you would be stupid to be like this. I feel that if something bad happens with a girl, i'll be able to shrug my shoulders and hunt down the next one.

I really want to make amends. I have been making myself as presentable as I can, and doing my best to reflect my current attitude in what I wear. I have had my hair styled and its looking pretty good. Spending more time getting in shape at the gym too.

And I have been making as many cold approaches as I can. I really enjoy doing them. You get a real good rush before you go for it, and then you feel totally relieved afterwoods. I'm not at the point of asking for dates just yet, but I know I will soon. No one I know, family, friends whatever, do cold approaches in public places. So maybe this will give me an edge.

Ok i've been talking long enough. But my question is, what should I do about the whole getting laid issue. Its really something I want to get out of the way ASAP. I hate asking this but, should I pay someone to fix up this problem or just keep working at it? I know its a whole ethical debate. But I have to do something. To be my age without any experience what so ever is embarrassing. And I have to fix it. Any ideas guys? Thanks for reading.

 

[uniassign]

It will only be a problem if YOU make it into a problem.

You don't have to tell her until you almost seal the deal anyway, so why let that bother you?

 

[Monkey]

Don't worry about it man. I was 21 when I lost my virginity, its no big deal. The first time I did it I lasted for about 4 seconds LOL but by the end of the week I was shagging the same girl every way imaginable for a couple of hours at a time!

Don't try to 'get it out of the way', just deal with it when it happens and enjoy it.

 

[italostud]

If it bothers you that much, just go get an escort, wear a jimmy and have fun. Oh btw, keep that your little secret and definitely don't tell any future gf's.

 

[Monkey]

Originally posted by italostud
Oh btw, keep that your little secret and definitely don't tell any future gf's.

Although I would usually agree with that, when I lost my virginity at 21 to a 24 yr old I actually told her it was my first time and she loved it that she was my first.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks alot guys!

Is it worth telling them before hand, or just do it?
Also, any tips for the first time?

 

[Monkey]

If you think shes LTR material then you could tell her before hand. Or if you last less than a few minutes then tell her afterwards it was your first time but if you fluke it and keep going for 30+minutes then tell her whenever or never.

If you're certain that you will be having sex I'd give the pole a one-two, choke the chicken, dunk the dolphin, strangle the snake before hand so you'll last a bit longer.

That was my problem the first time, I'd not tickled the pickle for a few days and was so sexed up, when it came to doing it I just fekin exploded after 4 seconds

The intial shock of 'wow, I'm doing it!!!' wears off pretty quick and you'll be able to last much longer.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks Monkey! Thats some really good advice. I'll definately take it on board!

What do you think about positioning? What would you say is the best way to go about it for the first time?

I hope thats not a stupid question LOL

 

[Monkey]

Not a stupid question but it really depends on the girl and what position shes in, she might even decide to jump on top of you!


Whatever don't sweat it and just enjoy the anticipation, it'll happen when it happens, theres no rush.

Theres plenty of people I know who say they wish they would have waited to lose their virginity - so its something for you to look forward to.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks Monkey!

I really appreciate it! Hopefully i can put your advice into practise sometime soon!

Thanks again.