SweetTooth
Don Juan
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I became interested in a female friend of mine who has a boyfriend (she never mentioned him 
), I felt as though things were going well but she might have just been using me for attention. I started flirting with her, teasing her where she'd playfully hit me, she walked close to me so our bodys were touching (yeah that thing girls do haha), she did her nails a certain colour which I said I find sexy (really I was just testing to see if she'd do it), and she agreed to come over (this was around xmas time). I was flirtatious with her and said I'll unwrap her for my xmas present and she was like " you minx! Make me a cake then"... But yeah anyway... It didn't happen because I never had plans to follow through with it I was just flirting with her like I do to all female friends.
Things got a little different between us because I actually started to really like her. I ended up asking her out. She seemed surprised I liked her (uhm wtf I thought it was obvious). She rejected me saying she has a boyfriend, she was like "tbh things could have been different if I weren't with him" blah blah blah generic crap which I believed given all the signals I was getting from her, I asked just like "look do you like me as more than friends or not?" she said "idk it's hard to say as I have a bf". Anyway her friend told me the next day that it's a "never", and so I spoke to her again explaining what her friend told me, and was like "it's cool I got confused I don't really like you in that way just we've been closer recently". She was like "sorry I couldn't tell you myself I hope you don't think badly of me" I was like "why didn't you tell me the truth" she was like "I felt too bad tbh". So it was all well and good, but then she was like "idk about if I wasn't with him but I'm not interested right now, I'm not interested in ANY other guys." Then a few weeks after she started saying that she's unsure about her feelings for me and thinks she likes me, thinks her relationship won't last much longer. (To be fair they do argue)
For a very long time now I have been led on by her, where she tells me one thing (that she'd go out with me if she ever splits with her bf) and yet tells her friends something else (that she'd never go out with me because I'm a friend). It's caused so much drama, and arguments between me and her where I call her a liar and a user. She reckons she lies to her friend about things so it doesn't get back to her boyfriend... And being me and her are friends I trusted her and stuff all this time.
My question is what do I do from now? I've been ****ed with for quite a while and I'm thinking of not speaking to her again. If I simply cut contact she probably won't reinitiate for some time or really notice as we aren't that close and she already has a guy, though she does really want to stay friends. I was thinking of telling her we should be best friends, say we'll really start speaking more and say we'll hang out and stuff then after that BAM never speak to her again (but like I said if I just leave she might not notice considering she's "in love" with her bf now and we have different social circles). OR just simply tell her I can't be friends when I want more and walk. She freaks out and desperately trys to sort things out when I say I won't speak to her again. I think she liked me a bit in the past, or at least I remember her trying to get me to kiss her but I was never that interested.
), I felt as though things were going well but she might have just been using me for attention. I started flirting with her, teasing her where she'd playfully hit me, she walked close to me so our bodys were touching (yeah that thing girls do haha), she did her nails a certain colour which I said I find sexy (really I was just testing to see if she'd do it), and she agreed to come over (this was around xmas time). I was flirtatious with her and said I'll unwrap her for my xmas present and she was like " you minx! Make me a cake then"... But yeah anyway... It didn't happen because I never had plans to follow through with it I was just flirting with her like I do to all female friends.Things got a little different between us because I actually started to really like her. I ended up asking her out. She seemed surprised I liked her (uhm wtf I thought it was obvious). She rejected me saying she has a boyfriend, she was like "tbh things could have been different if I weren't with him" blah blah blah generic crap which I believed given all the signals I was getting from her, I asked just like "look do you like me as more than friends or not?" she said "idk it's hard to say as I have a bf". Anyway her friend told me the next day that it's a "never", and so I spoke to her again explaining what her friend told me, and was like "it's cool I got confused I don't really like you in that way just we've been closer recently". She was like "sorry I couldn't tell you myself I hope you don't think badly of me" I was like "why didn't you tell me the truth" she was like "I felt too bad tbh". So it was all well and good, but then she was like "idk about if I wasn't with him but I'm not interested right now, I'm not interested in ANY other guys." Then a few weeks after she started saying that she's unsure about her feelings for me and thinks she likes me, thinks her relationship won't last much longer. (To be fair they do argue)
For a very long time now I have been led on by her, where she tells me one thing (that she'd go out with me if she ever splits with her bf) and yet tells her friends something else (that she'd never go out with me because I'm a friend). It's caused so much drama, and arguments between me and her where I call her a liar and a user. She reckons she lies to her friend about things so it doesn't get back to her boyfriend
... And being me and her are friends I trusted her and stuff all this time.My question is what do I do from now? I've been ****ed with for quite a while and I'm thinking of not speaking to her again. If I simply cut contact she probably won't reinitiate for some time or really notice as we aren't that close and she already has a guy, though she does really want to stay friends. I was thinking of telling her we should be best friends, say we'll really start speaking more and say we'll hang out and stuff then after that BAM never speak to her again (but like I said if I just leave she might not notice considering she's "in love" with her bf now and we have different social circles). OR just simply tell her I can't be friends when I want more and walk. She freaks out and desperately trys to sort things out when I say I won't speak to her again. I think she liked me a bit in the past, or at least I remember her trying to get me to kiss her but I was never that interested.