DJArlington
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 11, 2002
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guys i dated this girl for three years on and off. we finally broke it off for good in December 2007. i was the one who broke it off w/her but now i'm torn up without her. i can't tell if it's loneliness, oneitis, the fact that my family hated her guts and tried to tear us apart (I'm Indian she's American / Caucasian). I had problems with her that led to us breaking up that were separate from my family (I found a porn video that she did with an ex-lover on her computer, problem was she was still in contact with the guy). Once my parents found out about the problems (like an idiot I told them what happend because I thought our relationship was over) they caved in on me and pressured me to stop seeing her. After that, all I wanted to do was hold on to her.
well let's forward to June 2008, now she is dating someone, sounds like a pretty decent guy. she still wants me in her life but only if i am able to handle the family situation. i can't tell if my family put doubts about her in my head or if the video is still bugging me (i.e. i still have trust issues with her).
i'm so confused. can someone shed some light on this? do i just need to move on? i have fixed all the independence issues with my family, which by the way took years of therapy. she lives across the country and sometimes i feel the urgency to move to where she is and just try it out. the problem is if i move there my family will freak out, so i guess i haven't worked the issues out. i feel like this weird relatinsihp w/my family is screwing me up, like in other areas of my life. they are great ppl it's just not healthy for me.
and by the way the sex was mind blowing - honestly it'll never get better than this.
and i have dated around during our on / off break up periods. the girls were cool but not like her
guys i dated this girl for three years on and off. we finally broke it off for good in December 2007. i was the one who broke it off w/her but now i'm torn up without her. i can't tell if it's loneliness, oneitis, the fact that my family hated her guts and tried to tear us apart (I'm Indian she's American / Caucasian). I had problems with her that led to us breaking up that were separate from my family (I found a porn video that she did with an ex-lover on her computer, problem was she was still in contact with the guy). Once my parents found out about the problems (like an idiot I told them what happend because I thought our relationship was over) they caved in on me and pressured me to stop seeing her. After that, all I wanted to do was hold on to her.
well let's forward to June 2008, now she is dating someone, sounds like a pretty decent guy. she still wants me in her life but only if i am able to handle the family situation. i can't tell if my family put doubts about her in my head or if the video is still bugging me (i.e. i still have trust issues with her).
i'm so confused. can someone shed some light on this? do i just need to move on? i have fixed all the independence issues with my family, which by the way took years of therapy. she lives across the country and sometimes i feel the urgency to move to where she is and just try it out. the problem is if i move there my family will freak out, so i guess i haven't worked the issues out. i feel like this weird relatinsihp w/my family is screwing me up, like in other areas of my life. they are great ppl it's just not healthy for me.
and by the way the sex was mind blowing - honestly it'll never get better than this.
and i have dated around during our on / off break up periods. the girls were cool but not like her
