I recently found out something very disturbing and depressing.. This girl I have know for 8 months is about to make the biggest mistake of her young adult life. This guy she is infatuated with just gave her a promise ring over Valentine's day.
Now, a little background. She met this guy over the internet. They both live in the same town. From what I understand he's HARDCORE AFC. You name it, he's done it. Everything in the book! Get this! She's only know him since Christmas. This guy crawls up her a$$ everyday. Comments, a$$kissing, buying her a rose every week, telling her she's beautiful all the time. [this girl is a 7 on a good day, and she knows it!]. Endless supplicating. The girl is only 17 and the guy is 20. This guy is a total loser. He wasted a year out of high school, then decided to take ONE class at tech. He dropped out of that. And he keeps promising her that he will go back soon. He works full-time at a Video Game store and still lives at home.
I told her this over the phone last night and she started to get "huffy" with me:
ME: He doesn't have what it takes to maintain a long-term realtionship, much less a marriage. He's VERY insecure, emotionally unstable, and lacks confidence. Not a good foundation to build upon. His feelings for you are blinding him and he has lost control. He will not hear of it until he has already CRASHED-N-BURNED. This one's going to end ugly. Sorry.
Me: I wouldn't be saying all this If I didn't care for you. I want what's best for you, and he's not it. I'm sorry. You can't see it because you're not thinking rationally and you're blinded into believing this pipe-dream and air castle in the sky that he has created. You are not crazy. Just misguided.
Her: But! I'm happy! And I love him!
Me: No, what you're experiencing is temporary insanity. The high (infatuation) will soon wear off! If you decide to go through with this, you will NOT have my blessings.. Just don't hate me when the whole thing collapses like a house of cards. k?
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I look upon her as a good friend and I want what's best for her. I am NOT jealous whatsoever. I just hate to see this girl get in over her head with this guy. I just have this gut feeling. I feel helpless as to what to do and i've run out of ideas to persuade her not to go through with this!
Now, is there any other advice that you would recommend? I want to tell her that she's going to thank me later if she just listens to me! But, she is hard headed and hell bent! She is VERY insecure and will look at anything that gives her attention. So... it will appear as though my work is cut out for me.
Please help me help her.. THANKS IN ADVANCE.
Now, a little background. She met this guy over the internet. They both live in the same town. From what I understand he's HARDCORE AFC. You name it, he's done it. Everything in the book! Get this! She's only know him since Christmas. This guy crawls up her a$$ everyday. Comments, a$$kissing, buying her a rose every week, telling her she's beautiful all the time. [this girl is a 7 on a good day, and she knows it!]. Endless supplicating. The girl is only 17 and the guy is 20. This guy is a total loser. He wasted a year out of high school, then decided to take ONE class at tech. He dropped out of that. And he keeps promising her that he will go back soon. He works full-time at a Video Game store and still lives at home.
I told her this over the phone last night and she started to get "huffy" with me:
ME: He doesn't have what it takes to maintain a long-term realtionship, much less a marriage. He's VERY insecure, emotionally unstable, and lacks confidence. Not a good foundation to build upon. His feelings for you are blinding him and he has lost control. He will not hear of it until he has already CRASHED-N-BURNED. This one's going to end ugly. Sorry.
Me: I wouldn't be saying all this If I didn't care for you. I want what's best for you, and he's not it. I'm sorry. You can't see it because you're not thinking rationally and you're blinded into believing this pipe-dream and air castle in the sky that he has created. You are not crazy. Just misguided.
Her: But! I'm happy! And I love him!
Me: No, what you're experiencing is temporary insanity. The high (infatuation) will soon wear off! If you decide to go through with this, you will NOT have my blessings.. Just don't hate me when the whole thing collapses like a house of cards. k?
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I look upon her as a good friend and I want what's best for her. I am NOT jealous whatsoever. I just hate to see this girl get in over her head with this guy. I just have this gut feeling. I feel helpless as to what to do and i've run out of ideas to persuade her not to go through with this!
Now, is there any other advice that you would recommend? I want to tell her that she's going to thank me later if she just listens to me! But, she is hard headed and hell bent! She is VERY insecure and will look at anything that gives her attention. So... it will appear as though my work is cut out for me.
Please help me help her.. THANKS IN ADVANCE.
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