"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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PLEASE help me sort this one-itis confusion

j8snx1

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guys im a bit confused on what to do.

my ex still claims she wants to be with me but then she "doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. she feels like being crowded by emotions." Yet she was real straightforward when she told me that shes into this sophmore guy @ school.

she's supposedly crowded by emotions when she says she emotionally is distant from her friends. i see her laughing her head off with her friends, but she rarely talks to me. im beginning to get ticked off. call it one-itis, but i really want things to work out again, esp. since we're going to prom together, i want it to be a couples' night, not just friends night.

i dunno guys, im so confused now. i want to respect myself and just say "you know what, you don't know what you want, and it seems like i'm not part of what you want." and just let it go from there

but i also want to make things right again you know? this girl was really something to me..but now this is getting very bizarre

should i
A) tell her what i said up there and end it now
B) let things fall into place, keep up my dj methods even around her, which might want her to come back to me.

if option A: how should i say it?

if option B: how should i behave in order to be a challenge?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Damian

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Get on with your own life. Don't alienate her, but keep her around as a friend. Go flirt with other girls and let her SEE you flirt with other girls. Right now this girl is playing the "hot/cold" game on you to try and lure you in. Be calm, collected, and detach yourself from her drama. Live your own life. Go game up some other girls, man.

-Damian
 

Zerotwoonenine

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just next her ass, she doesnt want you,trust me. When girls say they are not ready for any relationship, she means she is not ready for a relationship with you, so my advice is, definitely end it. Dont even go for two options, just next her.
 

Skilla_Staz

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Excuses excuses. Tell her you're not looking for mind games. Leave. Get another broad. One-itis is a lame excuse to get abused. Fifty bucks says she's ready for a relationship, she's just keeping you around for a booty call when she gets desperate.

Next.
 

Bloke

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" **** that b*tch.

You never knew her.

You'd prolly screw her & dump her body in the sewer ! "

Say that several times with true passion. It solves everything.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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