"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Please help me on bullying!!!!!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
shydude
Master Don Juan
shydude
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ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
and YES, ditto on the ignore the dudes, go for the chicks
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
shydude
Master Don Juan
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
from the sounds of things he's not a very big guy, and he hasn't practiced any self defense...
DonSonnySagliani
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You are a man, and a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do! I get in fights all the time cuz', as my friend said once, my nasty reputation takes me everywhere.
You do a lot of good things by fighting like... get ur reputation up, give them a lesson, gain self-confidence, increase ur testosterone, etc...
SO... Go out and kick their ases. Doesn't matter if they beat u the first time, cuz you'll find the way... make a small gang, surprise them alone one by one, on a beautifull dark night, or get a knife or gun and if not wound them at least scare them.
XSilverStarboyX
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Actually, this might be funny. You say hes much bigger than you. Well say, "You seem to like picking on smaller guys. I bet you have an even smaller ****"dreamx said:
edit: I can see you stood up for yourself. Way to go champ
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you did perfect, you insulted him and made him run out embarrassed and even his buddies thought bad of him.you even made it humorous.
do not take his crap. if he starts to give you crap, send it right back.
ever watch the longest yard? adam sandlers character goes right up to the baddest dude in prision and gets in a fight with him during his first lunch there. why? to prove he was not a sissy from day one.
defiancy
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Seems like the climax of the whole film
Definitely I give a thumbs up
Good job for standing up for yourself man...pretty interesting post to read
PeterNorthisawesome
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AHHAAHAHAH that's the worst idea ever. Wrestling is SO Gay i mean you wear a tight spandex and grope each other all sweaty and sh*t and the more gayer the position more points you get. Heavy weight is the worst they grab each other until one of them "gives up" then they fall on each other and start dry humping each other. All the wrestlers get SO MUCH SH*T at school and NOONE comes to the meets. So doubleBerlex said:
for you.Chillisauce
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)Ignoring it won't go away. Join a boxing gym and train hard for 2 months and i bet you'll be able to flatten them. Then when they start their bullying, give them a quick one-two to the face and it'll never happen again.
Took me a few years to figure this out through school, respect through fear is better than someone disrespecting you.
I was waiting for someone to make this comment. It's funny...there was one year when two ex-basketball players (they were cut) tried out for the wrestling team, they said the same thing before they tried out. Those guys didn't last a week of practice...they later took back their comment about wrestling.PeterNorthisawesome said:AHHAAHAHAH that's the worst idea ever. Wrestling is SO Gay i mean you wear a tight spandex and grope each other all sweaty and sh*t and the more gayer the position more points you get. Heavy weight is the worst they grab each other until one of them "gives up" then they fall on each other and start dry humping each other. All the wrestlers get SO MUCH SH*T at school and NOONE comes to the meets. So double
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
dannowillbookem
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well you ahve to look at what "gay" is. we're all gay to a degree, its your man degree. guys who are all tough and badass and confident dj's are barely gay, the guys who are nerdy computer kids who like fat porn are kinda gay, the guys who look at chicks with ****s shemale porn are pretty gay, and the guys who like seeing six oiled guys going at it are totally gay.
now a healthy, ungay young man will still show affection for his male counterparts...the old snaptowelling in the lockerrooms, the ass slaps on the baseball and football fields etc, but are meant in petty sexual terms and are more affection, good job you crazy bastard kinda ways. guys who wrestle take it to a further extent, and for a few it may fall into a sexual form of agression, but for the most part wrestlers are testosterone driven workout loving confident dj types and are not gay.
man i spent way too much time on that. i shouldve gone out tonight lol.
oakraiderz2
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dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
yep.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Try 5 days ago...oakraiderz2 said: