"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not comebacks, just stop letting him bother you.

The only reason he does it is to have power over you. If your small, he knows physical power is greater than yours and will use it, because your not going to come back with words...

Don't try and make up comebacks, that shows your insecure, you have to tell him the truth. Tell him what a loser HE is for doing this, tell him you know his game.

It's like taking down a b!tch shield. Last minute resistance to freedom, you have to tell him that he is a retard for doing this.

"The only time they chase you, is when you start to run"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Telling him he is a loser.

Probably will only work for some people. The problem is that if you fear him, the bully will just act tougher. He will say something like, "what the hell did you say to me, nerd? Did you call me a what?". If you are afraid you will just back down. It might work for you, just don't back down. Have no fear.
 

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crossboss said:
You may or may not convince the other nerds. But screw them if the are wimps. If all else fails, just fight back. Even if you lose the fight, he will probably see you as a man with guts....and you never know, he might back down.
RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!*beet red face, arms swinging in all directions*:box: :box: :box: :box: :cry:

Stay away from looking like a pansy who's letting his emotions take control of him alright?

I always prefer verbal tactics to disarm people, women included. A b!tch won't warm up to you if you suddenly start using kino on her.

If there are people around, lean back from him. Step back after he says your name. Look at him, then to the group. "Do you guys see this pvssy?" "calling me names and sh!t, he thinks he's so big" ***turn around and laugh...***
 

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problem with laughing at him, is that he will take offense. He might say "Don't talk **** to me, nerd." "You didn't mean what you said. Or did you?". Don't give in to him. You can't all of a sudden turn into a wimp. I suggest only trying this if you stick by what you say.
 

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lol, not to him numbnut, to his friends.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Act crazy and just start doing crazy things and be loud and dynamic. If you're crazy enough either he'll back down or try to fight you. If he tries to fight you just run around and when you get the chance do some roundhouse kicks to his face and kick him in the nuts and stuff.

Use this plan if all else fails and you're going off the deep end.
 

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Is he even cool, popular.. Becouse he prob bothering u so he can show others how tough he is...Just fight him@
 

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lol, not to him numbnut, to his friends.

Uhh! So that makes sense. 1 v X people? Why the hell? That seems foolish!
 

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Is he even cool, popular.. Becouse he prob bothering you so he can show others how tough he is...Just tell his friends that he looks like a dork and his mom was laughing about him last night
 

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Okay...telling his friends this won't work.

As soon as the football jock hears this he will take offense. Also why would his friends listen to this.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Because laughter is uncontrollable. Who expects a little nerd to suddenly stand up.

Just point out the truth, take a few steps and say what everybody else is thinking.

Think zen: An old man is walking down the road when three hecklers start to tease him. One of the hecklers comes forward and starts insulting him to his face, laughing and jeering at his frailty. The old man calmy stares to his friends and smiles, he looks to the young man and says "are they your friends?" The young man laughs as his friends remain silent to listen to their leader "of course they are, *cue friends laughter" SO the old man stops in his tracks and says "if you hit me what good will it do, If I get a lucky punch in your friends will never let you live it down, they will laugh at you for having lost to an old man"

The same applies with words, play directly to the bullies audience.
 

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The problem is they are his friends.

If they are the jocks friends, they will side with the jock. If this was to work, you would do it on people that aren't his friends. Then possibly, it would work.
 

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Okay, I said first, stop caring. If you become bothered by the group, than yeah, it won't matter... your absolutely right. If you can make it not fun for them anymore, than they give up, game over.

There's always techniques for you to do things that a bully wants you to do...

One of my favourites to make people laugh...

Fake your feelings, it always get people stirred up. If you fake the feeling, than they assume you are really feeling it if they expect it.

Fake being scared, fake being hurt, fake running away, fake being angry, fake being happy, fake being whatever. As long as you can see the way that they change, than you can predict the way they want you to change, and youcan just avoid it.

Crossboss, you obviously have troubles with bullies too, and the only way you can get back at them is by being exhibiting a weaker frame than them. You accept their frame, and try to win? Why? Are you a girl?
 

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Okay I used to have problems with bullies.

Okay, if you think I get picked on by bullies, I don't. If I did, I would overcome them. In the past, yes I did get picked on. Not a whole lot, a little. I stuck up for myself, they quit. What I have learned is that you don't pick on the group. You pick on one individual person. If you pick on the group, you lose obviously.
 

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Ignoring them, or not caring

That does not work each time. It may work on some but not all. If those people are really friends of each other. They will stick up for themselves.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dreamx go watch revenge of the nerds and get inspired.
 

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What would probably happen if you say this.

"Do you guys see this pvssy?" "calling me names and sh!t, he thinks he's so big" ***turn around and laugh...***

The group might say: "A *****? WTF? You are calling my friend. What?" group pissed, "You'd better back down."
 

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Hmmmmmm. is he dead yet????

dont for get to update, tell me if the guy died.......:rockon: by the way, i almost killed the guy"The fact i am proud off" !!!!!!!:nono: wich i should not be...
 

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Just kill the guy dammit.. WDF we live only once,..... Kill the guy.. Bang a girl... GO jail for life.... Thats it... LIFE IS SHORT.... DONT WASTE A SEC THINKKINg....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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