"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Please help me get over this.

Phenomenom101

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Look at my last posts to get the details, but here are the basics. I ****ing hate this. I met this girl at work. Her baby daddy cheated on her. We got close. We hooked up. We were together 1 year. She goes back with her baby daddy and the last time I tried to ask her to talk to me she says "no leave me alone". 1 year later I'm still ****ing thinking about her. I ****ing hate this guys. I ****ing mean it. I can't help but think about "****, this should of been different". I ****ing hate this. I want to get her the **** out of my mind, but 1 year later I still can't. I'm someone who falls in love too quicly. but I thought it was real. I really thought it was rela. Wtf happened. I just need help getting over this. I've had advice from "**** different women" to "pray her out of your mind" i wanna get over this and I dunno wtf its gonna take to get over it. Please guys, theres' gota be one of you that has gone through this and got through it succesfully. Please help. Anything at all will help. Thanks. Yeah I'm a little drunk now. so sorry if it sounds like a rant. I just wanna get over this.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bro, we all go through that. All you have to remember is to live for yourself.

NO WOMAN, especially ones who leave/cheat/disrespect/break your trust, deserves to be with you. Her ****ing lost, not you.

If you love yourself more than being with her, you will know, YOU NEED TO MOVE ON. If not, you really need to look at how you value yourself. You should be proud you're even breathing and being alive with workable limbs. This gets me through rough times because I could easily be brain damaged, cripples, burnt, etc. And seriously find a passion in life like music or writing or painting or some other crap. You should be more passionate in your own life than being with a woman.

Appreciate what you have now, women and people in general are 98% (exaggerating) of the time temporary things that move in and out of your life. But you will always have yourself.

STOP looking at the negatives of what happened but look at the POSITIVE aspect of it. You are free. You are you right now, not the past!

I lived like this for a year too (terrible with drugs), I know I can't do it anymore, I'm more important than someone who hurt me (and I blame myself or allowing myself to get hurt).

Stop beating yourself, just think that every moment is like your only moment, not your last. No past, no future, just now.

Think happy because negative thoughts DON'T EXIST IN THE OBJECTIVE WORLD. But I could go in a lot more detail explaining manisfestation and stuff but, just be positive. Just remember the good days before this woman, or back when you were a child.

Good luck.
 

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Blaise said:
Bro, we all go through that. All you have to remember is to live for yourself.

NO WOMAN, especially ones who leave/cheat/disrespect/break your trust, deserves to be with you. Her ****ing lost, not you.

If you love yourself more than being with her, you will know, YOU NEED TO MOVE ON. If not, you really need to look at how you value yourself. You should be proud you're even breathing and being alive with workable limbs. This gets me through rough times because I could easily be brain damaged, cripples, burnt, etc. And seriously find a passion in life like music or writing or painting or some other crap. You should be more passionate in your own life than being with a woman.

Appreciate what you have now, women and people in general are 98% (exaggerating) of the time temporary things that move in and out of your life. But you will always have yourself.

STOP looking at the negatives of what happened but look at the POSITIVE aspect of it. You are free. You are you right now, not the past!

I lived like this for a year too (terrible with drugs), I know I can't do it anymore, I'm more important than someone who hurt me (and I blame myself or allowing myself to get hurt).

Stop beating yourself, just think that every moment is like your only moment, not your last. No past, no future, just now.

Think happy because negative thoughts DON'T EXIST IN THE OBJECTIVE WORLD. But I could go in a lot more detail explaining manisfestation and stuff but, just be positive. Just remember the good days before this woman, or back when you were a child.

Good luck.
THe only thing about thinking about my past is it sucked. ****ing sucked. Abuse, bad ****. Dont like talking about it. Don't like to say this, but I thought she was in my life to change things. TO make them better. I hate to think I got my hopes up (I know the DJ bible says don't let your hopes depend on "them), but still I just kinda thougt maybe, just maybe things would be ok. I never thought things would end like that thought. I'm gonna be leaving to USMC soon. I just don't wannt think I'll be thinking about her when I'm there. I don't hate her (I should, but ****, I can't), I just wanna forget her. It's weird, but I want to know **** will be different. I wanna know i'll be ok. IDK I just wanna be rid of tis ****. You guys gotta know wha ti I mean.
 
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