please help LTR.

[dlin87]

Ok heres the deal. my friend and his lady broke up. and we both like each other. and we asked my friend if it was ok. he was FINE w/ it because he was already on someone else. heres, the thing, i really like this girl and she does too. she makes me feel really different than others. anddd.. i guess im just askin here, iunno what to do, i wanna tell her how i feel but im scared about the whole "give too much and then they will get bored " kinda thing. its been a couple days and im already deep in it. she is too, but iunno wuh to do. we both agreed to take things slow... so. any advice guys? wuh should i do, should i tell her how i feel? or what

also, some advice about where i should take her just to hang out? somewhere nice... no coffee house etc, we already went to the beach then to the park.. but yea help guys

 

[bfl]

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEASE IMA TELL YOU ONE GOOD TIME, DO NOT DO IT.
Dont tell her how you fell so early in the RL matterfact this aint even a RL yet, trust me i know by experience, do not do it.

 

[dlin87]

what do u think would happen if i did sey it then?

 

[bfl]

lol , ok let me ask u something.
how long have you been going out with this girl?

IF its less than 6 months then please dont let her know "how much u lover her, how much she means to you, that u wanna be with her for ever etc..."

thats her job to do.

You are just excited and happy about being in a fresh relationship, believe me i was the same as u 5 months ago, now we cant stop arguing, and i regret doing and saying everything that i said to this girl. Give it a 2 months and ull see what i mean.

 

[Kaine]

This tells me you haven't done any reading what so ever, go read the bible

or

go tell her you'd drag your nutz on razor blades just to see her smile and that every day without her is more agonizing then having forks stabbed in your butt h0le


Kaine

 

[JonJack]

Dude. Special feelings of love or a deeper connection should only legitimately come only after you've been in a LTR. Even then, the relationship should be an active one. Not those 'see each other once a week' sort of relationship.

If you think about it, when a guy goes after a girl, he doesn't really know much about the girl. What he does know is what she wants him to know. Only after you've broken down her defenses would she truly open up to you and show you her true colors. This is when it gets serious, cause you might not like what you find out.

People who fall head over heels with thoughts of 'love at first sight' are just unaware of what may lie ahead of them. Once you realize that the girl has the potential to go nuts in the future, you wouldn't put out so much of your emotions so early in the game. Surprisingly, girls respond to this better than to a guy that's all into her.

If you want to say something. Say something that isn't concrete. Concrete would be "I love you so much" or "there's no one else but you in my life". It's okay to tell her that you're happy. That you had fun or enjoyed yourself. That you had a great time with her. Might seem unimpressive, but you really should keep the impressive lines for later.

Ease into it. Like with the first fvck, girls wouldn't want you to be pounding their brains out. If they do, it's just all for fun then. Nothing serious.