FancyPants, by the tone of your messages, it is obvious that you have already decided what this woman thinks of you (you have falsely convinced yourself that she is into you), and you just want someone else to justify your belief. Sorry to tell you this, but she played with your emotions. First of all, you are shy, and I'm assuming that you're a fat boy (I gathered this from the "big guy" remark and the fact that you eat garbage--correct me if I'm wrong.) Shy, fat, insecure: men with these properties are the perfect prey for deceitful women. Now, I would be lying to you if I said that I read that long, pathetic post of yours. I did, however, skim parts of it, and have come to the conclusion that this girl enjoyed playing with your emotions, and she loved the attention (who wouldn't?). Why was she playing you? How do I know there wasn't a burning desire? Because nothing happened! That's why. If this woman really dug you, something would have happened, or she wouldn't have told you anything at all. The fact that she is "comfortable" with you, is the equivalent of saying "you have no balls, so I don't have to worry around you." Why do you think this woman would be attracted to a shy, fat man, anyway?
Of course she was nice to you fat man. She wanted to give you the impression that she likes you, so you could act all pathetic around her. I've seen her type before, FancyPants -- I was a victim of one about 10 years ago (before I dropped 50 pounds, went back to school, and got a sac). I know your pain, FancyPants; I was there. I thought this one girl dug me, I would play over the conversations in my head, and try to find things that indicated an interest: "She bought me coffee before class" (she was thinking of me, so she must like me)"; or "you look nice today, is that a new shirt? (She noticed that I bought a new shirt, she must like me alot); or "you are so funny, I love you (wow! she said she loved me); or "Hey, let's go to Six Flags--my treat" (she wants to be alone with me, yipee!); and on and on and on (yes, including those little subtle things that you believe only coules do). But mine was more confusing, fatso: she would blow kisses at me during class, and lick her lips, and she would sit on my lap. But anytime I went to make a move, she would revert back to the "if I didn't have a boyfriend" excuse.
FancyPants, I am revealing this pathetic, loser, past experience of mine so you can avoid the pain. If the girl was really that into you, something would've happened -- you wouldn't hear the "boyfriend" crap. Anyways, I have a feeling you're not going to listen. You're going to convince yourself that there were subtler things that only you two shared that indicated that she was into you (stop overanalyzing! The girl I was 'involved' with used to tell me she loved me after every meeting, and still I got nothing). How many girls have you been involved with FancyPants? My guess is that its not that many. Now ask yourself why is it that most chicks would never look twice at you, yet one (or two) are all of a sudden crazy about you?
10 years later, I'm a different man. I can see the obvious solution to this problem of yours, and so can many on this board. Being able to spot something like this comes with experience. Better yourself, FancyPants. That way you can get over your insecurites, and stop sweating b*tches like that. Work out, read a few books, eat better. Learn from this mistake and stop looking for the answers that you want to hear, but that don't really exist.
. I am not fat By big it meant tall. I am sorry of what happen to you. But yeah your right I do keep going over and over with this in my mind. BTW I see fat people with woman all the time. So in your case how did you know she was playing you? She bought you stuff etc was your attention worth so much to her that she was willing to pay for it?
