Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Please help, I need some advice on this girl

dude99

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Can u define ghost her though? Like she has snapchatted me a few times in last day or two. so just open and ignore them or don't even open them?
If you open them you open themif you don't you don't. Who cares.
Be too busy for her. Do your own thing. Go meet new women. If you hang around waiting on her this will show her you havr no options and her interest will plummet even further. Ghosting means you have nothing to do with her for a duration of time, week, month or so, giving her time to either miss you or not even notice you weren't there. If she misses you then you book the date. If she doesn't care, you next her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think she must have rationalized her rejecting you already and you didn't help it either. I think at best you were in "maybe" category before. I would just forget about her for awhile and look for some other broad to bone in the meantime. Snubbing you on the street = disrespect. In my books disrespect always prompts "next" (for the time being at least).
 

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So I've been doing the whole ignore thing you guys suggested for like 5 days...Only thing is she hasn't said anything since then either. I think thats the longest we've ever went without talking. Should i just keep it up or what? And if she hasn't texted me or anything either for almost a week, isn't that kind of bad sign for me anyways lol?
 

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So I've been doing the whole ignore thing you guys suggested for like 5 days...Only thing is she hasn't said anything since then either. I think thats the longest we've ever went without talking. Should i just keep it up or what? And if she hasn't texted me or anything either for almost a week, isn't that kind of bad sign for me anyways lol?
Hate to say it, but if your not texting and she is not either, she is likely not interested...

You could ping her and say something random and see if she responds, or you could say... "Hey there! let's do XXX at XXX on this day XXX" Make it something fun and action oriented
 

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Hate to say it, but if your not texting and she is not either, she is likely not interested...

You could ping her and say something random and see if she responds, or you could say... "Hey there! let's do XXX at XXX on this day XXX" Make it something fun and action oriented
thanks! That's kind of what i was thinking
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You told her you liked her, you murdered challenge, her interest plummeted and now she looks down her nose at you because she lost all interestin you. She snubbed you in the street. What i would do is ghost her for a week. Then ask her out ONCE. give her a date and time to meet you. If she givesyou anything otherthan a solid yes, next her.
^^^^This. You talked to much shît you're not supposed to, man. You don't tell them you got a crush on them, it makes you look desperate. Secondly, you got trashed in front of her, showing you have lack of control. That's unattractive. You most likely fücked this one up, but now you know.
 

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So I've been doing the whole ignore thing you guys suggested for like 5 days...Only thing is she hasn't said anything since then either. I think thats the longest we've ever went without talking. Should i just keep it up or what? And if she hasn't texted me or anything either for almost a week, isn't that kind of bad sign for me anyways lol?
Time to go and meet new women. Plural. Women.

She isn't coming around. She isn't contacting you. She isn't interested.

It would be more productive to put the energy into meeting new women, rather than waste time and effort on an uninterested woman.

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