Ok, first off, I reeaally need some advice here, dunno what to do, its a long story, but please, bare with me, if you are good at these kinda stuff, your advice could be worth gold to me=)
the problem:
I Used to hang out with a girl allot, met her through a mutual friend, started hanging out, we kinda flirted, and I started having feelings for her, seemed like she had it for me too, we talked alot on msn/facebook and stuff like that.
Things went kinda slow, it always felt like she was more" on" when she was drunk, texting me etc, but when she was sober, and I hinted that i wanted to do things, she was hesitant, and avoiding etc. Altough, we still had contact, altough not as much, and it like she was trying to let me down easy, or play hard to get...
Anyway, she moved to another city last fall, and by then, I thought it was over, but I could, on occasion(when she was drunk) get a textmessage, with like" you should move here" but if i replied, i rarely got an answer.
She come to visit her hometown a few times, during the fall, I never saw here, sometimes, she would write, saying shes back in town, ( over msn or so) and we would be like," we should put something togehter" or, I would say, cool, call me if u wanna do something tonight" but we never did, she hung out with her friends instead.
So,( trying to make this shorter) at christmas, she came back( got a few days off from her school), we talked, and went to a party with mutual friends, that night, we hooked up( awesome
)
And before we hooked up, she was taling about how much she had been thinkin about me, while being away, and how much she had missed me etc.
I never got to see her again before she had to leave to go back to school, she was only in town for a few days, I tried to get her to a party at newyears( she was still in town then) but she complained about how far away it was etc, so I didnt pursue it further...
I once before tried to get her to do something(between xmas and newyears), but she had plans with her sister that night.
So,a fter that, I stopped calling, texting, writing to her, I felt like it was her turn to make contact.
Wich she eventually did, but I missed it, had the computer on, she wrote on msn, and i didnt pay attention to it, untill a few days later, so i wrote back, oh sorry, missed bla bla.
After that, i wrote a few times o facebook etc, we just talked etc, nothin special, then i stopped initiating contact, waiting for her, but she hasnt contacted me, at all. )This was in early spring..)
Ive texted her once or twice this summer, she is, like last summer, very "avoiding" in her textmessages, but she replies instantly etc.
Im crazy about this girl, and I cant get her out of my head, I cant, what should I do?
Did she lose all the feelings she had for me? Or did she think that i was just in it for a one night stand? and that i was just writing to be polite?
I talked to a friend of mine, and he thinks I didnt pursued her hard enough, after we hooked up that night. But, I dont know...
All I know is, i cant stop thinking about her, most awesome girl ever...
Help me, please, would really appreciate it, ive been reading this forum for a long time, felt like it was time to become a member...
/TT
the problem:
I Used to hang out with a girl allot, met her through a mutual friend, started hanging out, we kinda flirted, and I started having feelings for her, seemed like she had it for me too, we talked alot on msn/facebook and stuff like that.
Things went kinda slow, it always felt like she was more" on" when she was drunk, texting me etc, but when she was sober, and I hinted that i wanted to do things, she was hesitant, and avoiding etc. Altough, we still had contact, altough not as much, and it like she was trying to let me down easy, or play hard to get...
Anyway, she moved to another city last fall, and by then, I thought it was over, but I could, on occasion(when she was drunk) get a textmessage, with like" you should move here" but if i replied, i rarely got an answer.
She come to visit her hometown a few times, during the fall, I never saw here, sometimes, she would write, saying shes back in town, ( over msn or so) and we would be like," we should put something togehter" or, I would say, cool, call me if u wanna do something tonight" but we never did, she hung out with her friends instead.
So,( trying to make this shorter) at christmas, she came back( got a few days off from her school), we talked, and went to a party with mutual friends, that night, we hooked up( awesome
)And before we hooked up, she was taling about how much she had been thinkin about me, while being away, and how much she had missed me etc.
I never got to see her again before she had to leave to go back to school, she was only in town for a few days, I tried to get her to a party at newyears( she was still in town then) but she complained about how far away it was etc, so I didnt pursue it further...
I once before tried to get her to do something(between xmas and newyears), but she had plans with her sister that night.
So,a fter that, I stopped calling, texting, writing to her, I felt like it was her turn to make contact.
Wich she eventually did, but I missed it, had the computer on, she wrote on msn, and i didnt pay attention to it, untill a few days later, so i wrote back, oh sorry, missed bla bla.
After that, i wrote a few times o facebook etc, we just talked etc, nothin special, then i stopped initiating contact, waiting for her, but she hasnt contacted me, at all. )This was in early spring..)
Ive texted her once or twice this summer, she is, like last summer, very "avoiding" in her textmessages, but she replies instantly etc.
Im crazy about this girl, and I cant get her out of my head, I cant, what should I do?
Did she lose all the feelings she had for me? Or did she think that i was just in it for a one night stand? and that i was just writing to be polite?
I talked to a friend of mine, and he thinks I didnt pursued her hard enough, after we hooked up that night. But, I dont know...
All I know is, i cant stop thinking about her, most awesome girl ever...
Help me, please, would really appreciate it, ive been reading this forum for a long time, felt like it was time to become a member...
/TT