Please, give me your honest advice!

[Joe The Homophobe]

Here is my dilemma. I just can't find a purpose in life due to my weak mentality. I go to community college, have like 3+ semesters left to transfer to a university. But I watch tv and play on the computer more than I study. I am just not into it. I have no ambition I just live day to day, routine after routine, nothing interests me. The navy/army/marines etc, we know that their training is top notch. Their training is well known for straightening out punks, turning boys into men and getting your mind sharp and serious. This is exactly what a lazy guy like me needs, I need the training to set me straight so i can achieve my potential and get serious about life.

My problem is, what would happen to all the college classes I have taken? do they train you there for actual jobs outside the navy? One of my reasons for joining (and not joining) is that I need to do something to help my family out financially (mom, sisters). This is the only thing I care about. If I join the navy do they train you for actual jobs that can get you hired outside the navy? my mother wants me to finish college fast so I can help out. I have done lots of community college credits so I don't want to leave that for nothing so I need to know what im getting into (but i dont). I know nobody that is in the navy, i don't know much of what they do i know nothing.

I am thinking about the Navy since I rather not join the army which would mean going to Iraq. I rather be in a ship and work there in the navy. I just want to go the navy maybe a year, get the training. Maybe I like it and stay longer but I just want the training and to be in that serious, demanding environment to improve myself.

What do you guys think?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

I just want to go there for maybe a year, get the training.

Do you actually have the choice to just serve for a year and get out??

How about becoming a cop? You'll get medical and a flexible schedule that will allow you to continue school. The pay isnt high in most cities, but in my city they make more than teachers and have the chance at alot of PT work that pays well (doing security and shyt.) You'll gain a sense of responsibility and blah blah blah...

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Do you actually have the choice to just serve for a year and get out??

That's what I want to know!

How about becoming a cop? You'll get medical and a flexible schedule that will allow you to continue school. The pay isnt high in most cities, but in my city they make more than teachers and have the chance at alot of PT work that pays well (doing security and shyt.) You'll gain a sense of responsibility and blah blah blah...

I thought about it, then I realized I would have to deal with the scum of the earth and maybe get killed, I rather not. My family needs me which is why i didnt become a cop or join the army.

 

[RedPill]

Hey Joe, listen up. I can't say I know anything about the military, but your "dilemma" is not going to be solved by joining. I'm not saying don't do it, as it may well help instill some much needed discipline in you, but it's not going to help you find a purpose in life. That's your job. Nobody said it's easy.

Your post sounds a lot like something I would have written 5-6 years ago. I was absolutely directionless. Probably much more so than yourself. You know what I did? I locked myself away in the library at the community college, for hours and hours, day after day for a whole semester (my last at community college) and just started writing and typing out all my thoughts. Literally dozens of pages.

And you know what came out of that? Absolutely nothing. Just questions with no answers. But, for a change I started to come up with answers on my own, instead of relying on the advice that the system and the people around me had been shoving down my throat for the previous 20 years of my life. I can look back now and say that semester may have been one of the most pivotal times of my life. Every success I've ever enjoyed since then has descended from the chain of ideas that originated with me questioning myself in the library on many cold winter days that year.

What it all really boils down to is this... what do you want out of life?

You're young, and surely this will evolve over time, but what kind of life do you want for yourself? The answer to this question has nothing to do with what jobs you have, how much money you have, or the legacy you leave. I ask myself this question every single day now, and it's still not often enough. Stop thinking about your career resume and start thinking about your life resume.

One of the big differences between people who lead fulfilling lives and people who don't is vision. Vision is "the big picture." People who lead fulfilling lives are always having the discussion with themselves, cultivating their vision. For most though, their dreams are a series of fleeting thoughts, like a fly they can't catch because they really aren't trying. As it relates to you and where you're at right now in this stage of your life, and where you're going, you need to step back for awhile and start having the introspective discussion with yourself. The answers are within. And it all stems from that basic, open-ended question...

What do you want out of life?

RedPill

 

[sifer]

The navy/army/marines etc, we know that their training is top notch. Their training is well known for straightening out punks, turning boys into men and getting your mind sharp and serious. This is exactly what a lazy guy like me needs, I need the training to set me straight so i can achieve my potential and get serious about life.

This is what my friend told me (others gave similar experience token) when they joined the Marine.

"If you go in a *****, you're going to come out a *****. They don't change you. They simply train you to do your duty, but who you are, stays the same. If you went in an ******* or a great smart guy, you're going to come out the same, as an ******* or as a great smart guy."

I used to think the same way as well until I realized some of the harsh side of the reality that was given to me by my friends.