"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Please give me some advice

barvito

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Hi,

I really want to become more social and I think you guys could be of great assistance. i have difficulty opening up, mainly because I'm somewhat shy. I'm not shy around friends but around people i don't know as well, I kind of have a hard time talking. I'm a friendly guy and lots of people joke with me. When in conversation, i would like to become less boring. Maybe give me some stuff to say to "you're looking studly today" (joking) or "what do you like to do?". Just some questions i get asked often, so give me tips on how to answer commonly asked questions adn how to become more social.

thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Go out and do sh­it as much as you can.
Find a Passion, hobbies, or anything you can do to occupy your time besides just being on the computer or video games like i bet you do.
 

GaryUranga

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Dank Juan said:
Go out and do sh­it as much as you can.
Find a Passion, hobbies, or anything you can do to occupy your time besides just being on the computer or video games like i bet you do.
basically, Im/was similar to you, been gettign busy and talkign to ppl and crap and its been working so far, today I was one of the speakers in a large group of like 30 ppl of only like 5 ppl who spoke, I used to frak out about things like that because I was shy, but I keep pushign it, buildign my social skills and basically livign to the standard that I want, and thats slowly paying off.

As for beign less borign and knowign htings to say, I think its all part of how relaxed you are, and thtas what you should work on first instead of things to say, the more relaxed you are the more fun you are.
 
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