Please give me advice/opinion about this.

[Adam3335]

There is young girl and we dating each other for about 3 months now. She is taking it serious, but she is a virgin. How should I go intimately with this girl? Because there is no intimacy and I don't know what to do with this.


This girl recently start to think about going to USA for 10 month for learning english and she's indecisive about it even that she's already filling application forms and taking english lessons for some vocabulary... But I have feeling that she only doing this because she's waiting if I'll try to persuade her for staying at home and don't leaving... Is this possible? If yes, isn't it because she is uncertain about my feelings for her and she wants me to express it in some way? If we are together it is always fun and I showing her my affection with actions, but never with words. She even said to some of her girlfriends that: "He don't show "that" and I don't know what am I supposed to do". Is it possible that her uncertainty can cause her not showing affection and pretending being distant?


Thank you very much!

 

[Interceptor]

What would a man who is mature, confident and masculine do in this situation?

What would he want from her?

How would he show it?

Would he be ok if she didnt reciprocate?

What if he would stop worrying and simply act??

What if he didnt ask for permission or approval, and just showed her how he feels?

 

[Adam3335]

Thank you, I'll think about it.

 

[xenoware]

What would a man who is mature, confident and masculine do in this situation?

What would he want from her?

How would he show it?

Would he be ok if she didnt reciprocate?

What if he would stop worrying and simply act??

What if he didnt ask for permission or approval, and just showed her how he feels?

totally agree with this set of questions

 

[sodbuster]

First, women have sex 4 years earlier and with 6 guys more than they will tell you.I wouldn't bet on virginity,unless she's really young.Second, she IS coming to the US. She's just not telling you that yet-she wouldn't be filling out forms and taking English lessons for fun. A 3 month boyfriend or 10 months in a different culture? No contest, you lose. Can you stop her? Only if you want to come off as controling-you'll lose her then. Be cool, if you are still single in 10 months,you can date her again[I'm betting one of her "friends" will try to steal you the second she hits the plane]

 

[Adam3335]

Yes she is young and virgin.
Would really interested girl do that? I mean, would you decide to go away fo 10 months if you had a girl whom you really like? So I don't know what to think about it, it is the "end"? Because I cannot really imagine waiting 10 months for somebody. Funny is that some weeks ago I was listening to one female friend of mine about how she and her boyfriend waiting for each other for 10 months and I remember how I said that must be f****** crazy thing to do )

I'm betting one of her "friends" will try to steal you the second she hits the plane]

You surprised me with this ) There is some of her girfriends about she is thinking(!) that they want me and she is very jealous about them. - Will you stop seeing them if she would honestly tell you she isn't okay with that? Even if you take them only as friends, without anything else? Sorry for my english, thank you

 

[Cherokee]

What if he would stop worrying and simply act??

Beautiful advice there.
As much as you think women love intimacy (which is partially true) women love the freshness that "fun and laughter" can bring to them. So do not worry about such things as intimacy, girls always have to put up this "tender barrier" as an anti sl*t shield. Remember two things:

1. Judge a women by her actions, not by her words

but more importantly:
2. What a woman says, and what she really means are two different things

of course number 2 applies to most things not all things. What this means is, if shes acting all up tight and "virginal" shes probably looking for some fun. In terms of the wild, "Virgins are like wild horses that need to be broken first before they are tame to your touch"
To bring the legend Pook to my advantage here, be childlike to keep spontaneity and fun at all times. And stop worrying about your desicions, our bloody testosterone kills our imagination and makes us become headless chickens.

Read the bible you'll know how to act my friend. It helped me 100%