Hello,
I have been dating this girl for 7 months. I started dating her pretty much right after she had broken up with her boyfriend. I think she even cheated on him with me. But she assured me that she was pretty much friends with him at the time. They were miserable together. I caught her making contact with her ex, about five months after we dated, she insisted that it was just friendship. I broke up with her over the holidays, but then took her back. I was upset that she lied to me about it. I was upset that she contacted him. I may have overreacted, but I was hurt. Shortly after, she started becoming distant, and very sad. I knew something was wrong. We agreed to take it slow. But she kept being distant. Hot and Cold.
Fast forward to today. She has just told me that she no longer wants the relationship. That she can't have a relationship right now. She has no idea why. She says somedays she wakes up and loves being with me. Somedays she wakes up and wants nothing to do with the relationship. She says she is just messed up emotionally. I love this woman to death. I am so hurt. I don't know what's going on. I left it "well maybe a break will be good for you, and if it's meant to be it will be". I don't know if she fell out of love with me, if he came back in the picture. She said something about the fact that she can't give 100 percent to the relationship, and that she realizes she is being selfish and therefore doesn't want to feel guilty because she is not all in. She told me that it has nothing to do with me. Just that all of a sudden she just feels like this.
My question is, I am going to disappear now. Do you think, if this is an emotional issue, she will come back? Do you think she just needs time to figure things out? Especially the way we started? Or, do you think this is done and that I will never hear from her again. Please help.
I have been dating this girl for 7 months. I started dating her pretty much right after she had broken up with her boyfriend. I think she even cheated on him with me. But she assured me that she was pretty much friends with him at the time. They were miserable together. I caught her making contact with her ex, about five months after we dated, she insisted that it was just friendship. I broke up with her over the holidays, but then took her back. I was upset that she lied to me about it. I was upset that she contacted him. I may have overreacted, but I was hurt. Shortly after, she started becoming distant, and very sad. I knew something was wrong. We agreed to take it slow. But she kept being distant. Hot and Cold.
Fast forward to today. She has just told me that she no longer wants the relationship. That she can't have a relationship right now. She has no idea why. She says somedays she wakes up and loves being with me. Somedays she wakes up and wants nothing to do with the relationship. She says she is just messed up emotionally. I love this woman to death. I am so hurt. I don't know what's going on. I left it "well maybe a break will be good for you, and if it's meant to be it will be". I don't know if she fell out of love with me, if he came back in the picture. She said something about the fact that she can't give 100 percent to the relationship, and that she realizes she is being selfish and therefore doesn't want to feel guilty because she is not all in. She told me that it has nothing to do with me. Just that all of a sudden she just feels like this.
My question is, I am going to disappear now. Do you think, if this is an emotional issue, she will come back? Do you think she just needs time to figure things out? Especially the way we started? Or, do you think this is done and that I will never hear from her again. Please help.