"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ManOfMystery

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I'm 19, second year in college so I can't go to many clubs/bars yet...but I am in a fraternity and have been meeting plenty of chicks at school, parties and stuff. Crazy thing is, I have the worst luck with hooking up with girls at my university. I've never had sex with any of them, but I have hooked up with ~4 and almost got in a relationship with 2 of them. I've only had sex with girls I've met outside of school.

I am quite sociable, I am a chill guy to hang out with. I have a solid group of friends back home but at school I don't have a set of people I always hang out with. I have alot of random people I met, fraternity guys, sorority girls, and hopefully soon I will have friends on the Cross country and track teams. (I am walking on to the college level teams NCAA D-1)

I just am not good with getting girls 1 on 1, and I have this crazy thing where I always play extremely hard to get until I start to like a girl then I go AFC. I need to fix this somehow. Like this is so crazy, I'll act normally to a girl I don't like, and different to a girl who I'm interested in. This results in the girl I am not interested in BEING ALL OVER MY NUTS, and the girls I see potential in eventually rejecting me.
Physically speaking, I'll say I'm a 7.5. I have a babyface however, most people would say I'm still in high school because I get barely any facial hair and peach fuzz on my chest. I'm 6'1 ~160-170, skinny but ripped/cut because I am a runner.

I've finally learned how to take control of my life, I am attending a top 20 public university, running an insane amout of milage everyday, and finally am starting to understand how to become a man and how to judge interested in girls. I MISSED SO MUCH OPPORTUNITIES.

I've only had 1 g/f in my life as well, and I've probably gotten to 3rd base with at least 8 chicks.

One thing about me is, I do not even try for girls who are under a 7.5 in my book, what should I do about this?

In fact, any tips would really help me and I'd greatly appreciate it. I've already read the DJ Bible.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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As descriptive as this post was, you still haven't provided enough information. You say that you "almost" got into a relationship with two girls. What prevented the relationship?

LTRs are way harder than getting sex, imo. You complain that you haven't had sex with any of your stupid fraternity hors, but so what? What is it you really want out of life -- love or sex? (The only way you can have both is if you delay sex.)
 

ManOfMystery

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Obsidian said:
As descriptive as this post was, you still haven't provided enough information. You say that you "almost" got into a relationship with two girls. What prevented the relationship?

LTRs are way harder than getting sex, imo. You complain that you haven't had sex with any of your stupid fraternity hors, but so what? What is it you really want out of life -- love or sex? (The only way you can have both is if you delay sex.)
First off, thanks for responding to my post.

I had a couple relationships where the girl wanted to get exclusive and I didn't want to..I liked fooling around with them but didn't want to get in a LTR with them.

One of them I almost dated...but school ended in june and we chose not to do a long distance...and now she is in a LTR with someone else :crazy:.

Honestly, I do like sex, and I will only bang a chick who is at LEAST a 7 in my book. I'm just picky. But...

I really would like to get in a LTR with a quality babe, I'm always on the look but am also living life to the fullest.
 
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