Playing on other chicks while on a date

[MinusoneAFC]

Okay so my have done a pretty bad thing, had a buddy in town and we were out cruzing chicks. Well this chick I have gone on about 3 dates calls me up later that night and says she wants to meet up with us so I agree and she catches up with us. Well me and buddy start getting on fire and we have chicks all around us and spend sometime talking with them but try to make sure not to ignore the girl that meet me up there. Okay fast forward. We blaze this bar and go to new place, she gets in a foul mood. She explains that she say someone at the bar that she couldn't stand blah..blah....I leave with my buddy and then
then calls later in evening to apologie for being in bad mood. I also apologize for talking to all the girls but was just having fun with my friend while he was in town (lives out of town and haven't seen him in about 6 months).

No I think this chick got to me a little bit because mentally I was like screw you, called up another chick I am dating and she heads over for a little late night nookie.

Okay so here is the issue, the girl that got all out of wack is one that I work with (she is a temp and about 22 yrs old. I am in software sales and I am 30, she seems like she isn't going to cause any problems because she understands the importance of work and keeping play and business seperate)

Any how we had plans to got out tonight but she cancelled on me, she said she was on call to work and her work said they needed her(she waits tables) becaues people called in sick and she needed to come in. In addition we had plans to do lunch today but she said she need to run errands but we would get together tonight. So I guess my issues is should I just pull the plug on this one an get on down the road, I would mind hitting it on more time but I certainely don't want to get the run around. My biggest issues here is commited the cardinal sin in my book, and Doc's breakin a date. (two for that matter).

 

[TooColdUlrick]

well, what would you do and how would you feel if she did the same thing to you? you'd be po'd and you'd next her, right?

you wouldn't mind hitting it one more time, but you don't want to get the run around? sounds like you're looking for easy pvssy and it sounds like she kinda knows it.

 

[MinusoneAFC]

Agreed

So should I just next her.....just don't ask for another date and when I see here around the office just be polite but right this one off and move on down the road.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

play her on the side but make sure you don't care.

 

[Hemilaya_Playa]

I say that she's an attention ***** if she was bothered with you talking to other girls. If she flakes on you tonight... Next the **** out of her and never give it another thought. If she really wanted to hookup... she would have arranged another time for you guys too get together that she KNEW would be fine. Just play keep away with her and C&F her if she tries to bring up her missed dates... act as if you had other stuff to do anyways ( you really should have other stuff to do). Good luck!!!

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Re: Agreed

Originally posted by MinusoneAFC
So should I just next her.....just don't ask for another date and when I see here around the office just be polite but right this one off and move on down the road.

not necessarily. it sounds like she's nexting YOU. if you're not looking for just pvssy from her, then explain yourself again and make it up to her. sh!t, if you like her, this wasn't a very cool thing to do and was probably why she was in a foul mood.

when you go out wit da' boyz, keep the chicks away and have your own fun.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by Hemilaya_Playa
I say that she's an attention ***** if she was bothered with you talking to other girls. If she flakes on you tonight... Next the **** out of her and never give it another thought. If she really wanted to hookup... she would have arranged another time for you guys too get together that she KNEW would be fine. Just play keep away with her and C&F her if she tries to bring up her missed dates... act as if you had other stuff to do anyways ( you really should have other stuff to do). Good luck!!!

that's totally misguided, IMO. MinusOne fvcked up by letting her come along with the boyz and she basically got the cold shoulder that night.

did she think this was a date of some sort? probably. just from what you've said, she's acting completely rational and does not sound like an attention wh@re.

lay blame where it should be laid. MinusOne, it's up to you to decide to fix it or not. it sounds fixable.

if she missed dates before this happened, yes, distance yourself or next her. you weren't clear on this.

 

[Hemilaya_Playa]

Think of it this way... She came to where THEY were... so they were already in this place before her... so who's to say that they weren't already talking to these girls... if she wanted him all to herself, she shoulda invited HIM somewhere, like her home or something... IMHO

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by Hemilaya_Playa
Think of it this way... She came to where THEY were... so they were already in this place before her... so who's to say that they weren't already talking to these girls... if she wanted him all to herself, she shoulda invited HIM somewhere, like her home or something... IMHO

obviously she had some IL in him, otherwise she wouldn't have gone. but she did, probably thinking that they were going to spend some time together and that this was a "date".

the title of the post is,

"Playing on other chicks while on a date"

der! MinusoneAFC played himself right out of this chick by doing this.

again, how would you all feel if the tables were turned and some chick did this to YOU. the words, b!tch and wh@re would come to mind.

plain and simple, MinusoneAFC fvcked up here, not her.

 

[Kraken]

Remember, the purpose of the date is to establish rapport with her, get her to have some fun, and remember you. So to keep it short, don't play on other chicks while on a date.

 

[MinusoneAFC]

Thanks for the posts

Conclusion is it was my fault, I shouldn't have invited her out when I was hanging with my bro. The girl before this evening never broke a date, she did call me later this evening, although I didn't answer because tonight was the night we were suppose to go out on a date. I have busy week so won't have time for here but will ask her out next week, and I get dish next it. Bottom line I believe dating is learning about yourself and how you interact with people.

My concern for is that I have done this before with a completley different girl. Here is the low down. She and her friends were already out drinking and she invited me to meet up with her and her friends. I was out with one of my AFC friend's and I told him the situation and he wanted to see if she had any hot friends so I agreed to meet up with her to see if I could hook'em (kind of owed, althought he's very AFC has a lot girl friends of which many I have dated or slept with). Bottom line that night I met with her and that she was blowing me off, she was surrounded by tons of her friends and girlfriends so I started talking with other girls and that kind of pissed her off. Fast forward I was able to recover from this situation and this girl is now one of few girls that I am dating regularly, she has very high interest level, cooks for me all the time and is extremely accomodating. I see a pattern in myself here and I just want to try to avoid it in the future.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Re: Thanks for the posts

Originally posted by MinusoneAFC
Conclusion is it was my fault, I shouldn't have invited her out when I was hanging with my bro. The girl before this evening never broke a date, she did call me later this evening, although I didn't answer because tonight was the night we were suppose to go out on a date. I have busy week so won't have time for here but will ask her out next week, and I get dish next it. Bottom line I believe dating is learning about yourself and how you interact with people.

My concern for is that I have done this before with a completley different girl. Here is the low down. She and her friends were already out drinking and she invited me to meet up with her and her friends. I was out with one of my AFC friend's and I told him the situation and he wanted to see if she had any hot friends so I agreed to meet up with her to see if I could hook'em (kind of owed, althought he's very AFC has a lot girl friends of which many I have dated or slept with). Bottom line that night I met with her and that she was blowing me off, she was surrounded by tons of her friends and girlfriends so I started talking with other girls and that kind of pissed her off. Fast forward I was able to recover from this situation and this girl is now one of few girls that I am dating regularly, she has very high interest level, cooks for me all the time and is extremely accomodating. I see a pattern in myself here and I just want to try to avoid it in the future.

very easy to avoid this...you know what to do.

good luck

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

It's easy to avoid, if you got a date with a chick with IL you should be getting rapport.... Not overplay and try to be mister popularwomenizermysteriousi'mnotinterested man.