Playing hard to get?

[bearfan34201]

Can someone explain this to me? Tonight this 7.5 was asking my friend what I thought about her, blah blah blah. And then she goes on to tell him "tell bearfan I like what I can't have. And to play hard to get.".. I was confused, I thought I should show being confident, kino, all that. But ignoring her or whatever? Would'nt that seem afcish? Not talking to her?


Thanks

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

People desire what they can not obtain, the tihng which confuses me hear is that surley if she tells you to play hard to get it complety defeats the object of doing so, if i where you i wouldnt be too obviously 'hard to get' since she made this request.

 

[WC2]

In other words, she is telling you get your **** together and stop being needy. I had a girl's friend drop a line just like this to me way back and from that point on I never made the mistake again. Again, this is a indirect way of telling you that she likes you, but you need to be more of a challenge.

Now how you react? Don't play games. That's too obvious. Then again, don't continue on the same path. From now on, think of this girl as your fat friend who's fun to fvck every now and then. In other words, use her when neccesary and then leave. Drive her crazy.

 

[bearfan34201]

I know she likes me, Am I intrested? Yeah.. But I'm more intrested in her hot friend so I dont know what shes talking about. I'm still not giving her all the attention.


But still.. Wouldnt listening, kino and all that contradict playing hard to get?

 

[Randomer]

If you're more interested in her friend, then get with her friend, no point in playing hard to get with this one girl you're not even trying to get with. Chances are, you'll seem like you're playing hard to get anyway since you won't be actively trying to get with her.

 

[bearfan34201]

I'm working on it, she likes some other guy but who cares. I got like 4 girls I'm working on at the moment, if she doenst want me its not a big deal. I got 4 more lol

 

[mattb717]

you can still do kino and play hard to get. Let her know you have some intrest, but let her believe she's not THAT important by getting up and leaving every so often.

 

[n00bPimp]

Throw her some c&f, act like you dont care what she says/thinks unless its important. Most importantly, convey thru your language/interactions with her that you are a challenge.

 

[bearfan34201]

Got 2 more numbers tonight at that Taylor girls party. One girl was about a 6-6.5. She just seemed really cool and we had a lot in common so she will be a cool friend. Another was this 7.8(megan) who I've been seeing a lot with Taylor lately. I got her number and yeah shes a attention *****. But I downplayed my intrest in her and she seemed more responsive to it. She tells me that me taylor her and my 2 buddies need to hang out again soon. I told her me and her can hang out soon, she said "i doubt you'll call me". I'm def gonna call her for a one on one thing. But now to the crappy part of the night.


Taylor is definetly into me, no doubt about that. She asked my buddy "now is bearfan playing hard to get". No I wasnt, I was more interested in her friends and she blew up. Completely ignored me and shiot the rest of the night. Had 2 of her friends call me a as shole. Both were hot and both I was trying to set something up with. So I was ****blocked by her ass, completely pissed me off. I nearly flipped tonight, I got so ticked really easy. One friend of Taylors I was talking to said I was a complete as shole. I laughed it off and told her I wasnt. This girl was a 7.5(monica), I tried number closing her tonight. I go "well we didnt talk to much tonight". She goes "next time maybe we will...". I go "well maybe then..." BOOM taylor comes up and starts blabbering on how she thinks I'm pissed at her and why I was ignoring her all night. I told her I wasnt and walked away.
The 7.5 I posted about is taylor, everything else should make since I hope.


I was flirting with megan earlier in the night, she was sitting on my lap and shiot. Yeah she was doing it to other guys but again. I downplayed my intrest and she seemed more responsive to it(thanks to this thread). So later on she comes up and tells me to go talk to taylor cause shes all mad cause she thinks me and her were flirting. I laugh and said me and taylor are friends, and me and her(megan) are friends. She seemd a little confused by that, whatever. I don't care what these girls think.

So Taylor comes up while i'm talking to that really cool 6.5 and goes "so you met bearfan, the complete *******". I go "how am I a a sshole?". She goes "well you flirt with my best friend." And blabbered on about that. I have no regret or remorse. Me and Taylor are nothing, I made out and she likes to hold my hand and try to hook up with me. Let's face it, I'm not that interested. So I'm mad I did'nt get that monica girls number, she had a high ***** shiled tonight. I'm sure some of it had something to do with Taylor saying ****. Hell megan said that me and monica should try something "shes a attractive girl, your a attractive guy". I just laughed and said "i know".


I'm just mad, I dont want a relationship. Where does it say that I have to be with Taylor all night and not flirt or work my game on other girls? Completely ridiculous. I walked away thinking I can get with megan, man girls are shallow damn. It's her best friend and shes flirting with me? I don't care. Not my friend. Learning slowly but surely girls sure are shallow and backstabbers. Damn.

This and my old friend coming over when I'm not home talking to my parents about how me and him have grown apart. I do like him, hes a great friend, but hes very critical and doesnt like the party scene. I've been hanging out with my good buddy chris, whos my wing. And have been having a ball, so I'm dealing with leaving those negative friends behind because I felt that they were keeping me from going out and doing what I wanted to do. I felt I was grounded with them and not living up to my potential.

 

[Ziggy]

The idea is that first you do some kino and stuff like that and then when she likes you, you pull back some and play hard to get. It'll make her like you more. But remember first you have to get them hooked before you play hard to get or they won't play along.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Playing hard to get doesn't mean ignoring her. That's taking the phrase too literally. Stop thinking logically, remember? Girls don't use logic. They use their emotions.

Just act like normal. Tease her and flirt and everything. But then, right before you would, say, kiss or something, stop. The thing is, you want to get soooo close, and then back off. This will frustrate her, but also make her want it more. And that's playing hard to get. Just don't give in right away. Make her work for you.

 

[bearfan34201]

Playing hard to get doesn't mean ignoring her. That's taking the phrase too literally. Stop thinking logically, remember? Girls don't use logic. They use their emotions.

Just act like normal. Tease her and flirt and everything. But then, right before you would, say, kiss or something, stop. The thing is, you want to get soooo close, and then back off. This will frustrate her, but also make her want it more. And that's playing hard to get. Just don't give in right away. Make her work for you.

thanks

 

[Distant Light]

Playing hard to get doesn't mean ignoring her. That's taking the phrase too literally. Stop thinking logically, remember? Girls don't use logic. They use their emotions.

Co sign

Playing hard to get is basically giving mixed signals of interest and disinterest. So basically one point your acting like you like her but then completely act like you dislike her.

For example
- Saying you like her hair then all of a sudden saying its kinda of slimmy and overexeggerating as if its nasty
- Taking her somewhere and then completely change your mind
- She touches you and you rubbing back, then completely saying "ok thats enough touching"

See if you can catch whats going on in each of them she will never fully know if you like her or not. Just like how girls act back in your AFC days where they would be a covk tease and you'd be like "O she likes me" but then she is cold the next day or right after covkteasing she is cold and your like "WTF happen I thought she was having fun like I was"