"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Playing Hard to Get vs. Low Interest

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Hey guys, wanted to consult the DJ's on this one.

In general, what traits or actions spell out whether a girl is playing hard to get or actually has low interest?

I think it's important to know the difference because girls use that card all the time.

Could you guys give me some specific examples to demonstrate this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Poonani Maker

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I just assume that if they are not fawning all over me, if they are not asking my friends about me, or for my phone number, or trying to "trap" or corner me to talk to me alone for privacy, then, she's not interested, hard-to-get or not.
 
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I agree with Poonani. If I don't get obvious signs of interest, I move on. It may be that I've lost several girls that were secretly interested but were playing hard to get. Too bad. I'm not interested in their games.

For example, I leave a maximum of two voicemail messages. If I don't hear back, I delete her number. While continued persistence MIGHT work in some cases, I don't do so because it would make me feel like a stalker LOL.
 
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This is the question, isn't it?

The business of a Man is to diesel through the psychological chess game, while at the same time maintaining vigilance.
 
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