"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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During this last few months, there's a steady increase in my popularity in girls. I always had popularity, but during this last two months i concentrated on some chicks im working on.. around 8 or 9.

I usually talk and flirt, while practising ****y and funny attitude.I don't want to get serious with any girl, so i play along.

It's all good.. Until the girls get too involved in me.. For example; A week ago , two girls exchanged some rude dialuge produced obviously by jealusy of talking to me. It's not confortable for me, at all.

Today, i was talking to this girl making small talk about saturday's program... and a blonde girl i used to game passed by smiling to me said "hi ya" and proceed to walk away. Well the other girl immidiately told me "your such a player" and had a somewhat disgusted reaction in her face.. She said that already some days ago , i thought that wouldnt damage my game but she it shows that it affects her, after playing hard-to-get style while i was semi-asking her out on saturday.

Does the [player status] affect your game, sometimes damages it?

Im all ears....i mean..eyes :cool:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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alphawolfx

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the status damages your game with insecure girls, which you don't want anyway (or the ones looking to settle down in a very long LTR or marriage)

it makes you more interesting to the confident ones
 

squirrels

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Originally posted by alphawolfx
the status damages your game with insecure girls, which you don't want anyway (or the ones looking to settle down in a very long LTR or marriage)

it makes you more interesting to the confident ones
Yeah...if you're not in an agreed committed relationship, women getting jealous over other women talking to you is just that. They use the word "player" like we use the word "slut"...to make the opposite gender feel bad about playing the field instead of settling down with one person. It usually means that she's worried she doesn't have what it takes to hold you down.
 

alphawolfx

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all the girls that I talk to assume I'm a player - not because I talk about other girls, but because of the way I come off... they still continue to flirt and escalate, etc.

it's like when you tell a girl "oh man, you're so much trouble"
you're interested, but pretending you don't want to get involved... lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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frivolousz21

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pretty much anyguy who is confident will be called a player.

because women feed off that..when you give that vibe. they feel it and want to you and to be around it.
 

alphawolfx

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exactly... confident and flirty and fun
 
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