playa99's reload: the life of

[playa99]

Ok, i've never done this before,

I'm gonna be posting my progress with the laydeees on here :rockon:

bit of background:

Been around here a long time, since school days, had 2 LTRS one lasting a year, the other lasting 2, split up with my ex in August last year.

Slept with 4 chicks (2 being the LTRs) 2 being ONS when drunk.

Fooled around with about ten chicks in total, lost count of how many i've made out with

Work running a business with my Dad, we both own the business. Got into some trouble with gambling over the past couple of years, not gambled in a year now, feeling great! It's all in the past, everyone's made mistakes, I just got caught in a cycle for a period of time!

I've got dark hair, 5'11, 160, starting back at the gym after a lot of time out due to injury, massively into my boxing and sports in general really and got a decent social circle, very well known in my area, rep could have damaged due to HB4 ex whose also well known in the area

Aiming to sample many women and in time find the right one for me!

Lets go!


EDIT: This is a progress log, i'm gonna try and add in advice based on situations and take advice as well on where my game can improve!

 

[playa99]

So tonight I went to the gym with my buddy whose coming in on some free guest passes, and we ended up talking to a solid 8 of a sales assistant for a good ten minutes, good chat, she was a bit flirty, as all sales women are, nothing much else to report I hit the Shisha bar with my mates and chilled out.

I have plates I could spin but I don't know if I can be bothered getting in contact with girls I've known for a while, I want something new!

 

[MM92]

Just out of interest what part of Manchester are you from mate?

 

[playa99]

Near Wigan man, u?

 

[playa99]

Today I'm completely disillusioned with myself, my mate had a few of us single lads round, I text about 15 chicks asking them to come, desperate as anything! Gutted with myself!!!

 

[playa99]

Also, these include girls who've rejected me, ex girl friends, damn when I've had a few drinks desperation kicks in and it needs to stop somehow

 

[playa99]

Like I say this needs to stop and it's literally the influence of having a drink and my buddy having a free pad, these women all follow me on twitter, I was thinking of putting a face saving tweet out there to keeps value in social circles, thoughts?

 

[Swampcamel]

Don't everrrr think you can win social rapport with something so shallow and meaningless as Twitter. Delete it, unless you have your own web site and use it to market to hipsters and tweenies.

If you make a mistake, you can't really "save face," people see through that shjt. Admit your mistakes, learn from them, and move on to the next.

 

[playa99]

True man! Line in the sand!

Last night was mad, just got to drunk! Spinning two plates with girls long distance, was telling them it'd be good if they came and they were both saying you wish, could be a FB over the summer

 

[playa99]

wow, this weekend has been chaos! I was still a bit faded when i wrote the previous posts which isn't ideal!

I went out on Friday, drank toooo much, not to the point where I didn't know what I was doing, but enough to start doing stupid stuff. Asking girls to come meet me when drunk is a recurring theme cause i get h0rny as fvck. I know this is stupid and it's kicked in the head. Won't happen again. Lesson learnt.

Saturday I went out again, had a great night, and its all about the circles you hang in, we go out and have a laugh. I have several groups of mates and these are by far the best, I didn't get any numbers, but I spoke to a few chicks and had a good night, which is progress, I felt more comfortable than I have in a long time.

Now i've got this straight up 8 on my street. She's sweet, keeps on liking my pictures of me on instagram, but I don't really see her about often at all . I'm thinking the patient approach and wait till I do to get her number.

I'm moving away from the texting/FB approach, I think meeting is the key, text to a minimum, have the odd laugh via text, thats it.. if chicks wanna know me, they can meet me to do so.

 

[BeDJ]

Get her number off Facebook.

 

[playa99]

So today, well late last night whilst watching Iron man 3... i felt like I had a crystallizing moment, not just about women, about life in general.. I like to read articles and the other day I read one on David Beckham.. who could have near on any woman in the world at the drop of a hat if he wanted to, Yes he is a very good looking guy who could be a model anyway (no homo), but there's more to it than that..

The article said that if he had the choice between kicking a football or a girl, he'd play football... Now this got me thinking, and looking at other highly successful people. I looked at Robert Downey jr (my personal idol) the people around him said they admired his work ethic, his passion and his dedication. Floyd Mayweather... Hard work and dedication is his motto.

You look at there common characteristic... they have convictions and goals that deep seated that nothing will stop them.

They never for one minute considered failure as an option. You gotta have total belief in yourself that your going to be successful no matter what it is you embark upon.

Their charisma comes naturally because they love what there doing, by virtue of the path there heading down in life there constantly pushing there comfort zone, improving themselves and learning new things.

To have success in life, you gotta make yourself your number one priority in life, not women, not how you appear, not how much money you have, you gotta make goals for yourself, look at your character flaws, decide what you want in life.. it's not selfish, why would your family and friends not prefer the best you they can have.

When you find passions in life you become passionate, you feel fulfilled, you want to go as far as possible for yourself so you will push your comfort zone.

If you are that passionate, nothing will stop you, your much less easily manipulated because you sure as hell aren't gonna walk away from your plan in life for some pvssy.

I'm happy right now, I know I have my plans, I know to do that, I've got to get more confident, if you've read the bible you gotta know what makes you confident, its a matter of applying it to your life.

 

[playa99]

In terms of approaching week days aren't the best for me I run a company in construction, and there's very little day to day interactions with women; like I said, I'm moving away from a texting/FB approach and moving more into talking to women when i'm out and about. I'm off to the gym tonight so that will be interesting with the realizations i've had; hopefully see a girl I like and get that first number down! I feel ten times better in myself though so that always gooood!

 

[playa99]

So the gym.... I went with my buddy and its a laugh however, i'm realizing that it is actually harder to hit on girls when your in a day to day social situation with a mate!

There's a straight up 9 who works at the gym! Only problem is she's good mates with the 8 on my street, so I ain't sure yet which one to try game, if i try both it will fall flat on its face, this has happened before with two good friends, then you end up with neither!

My mate goes away next week so I can go alone and get a better time of trying stuff out there!

 

[playa99]

Also, gonna go no FAP for as long as possible ! Never been more than 6 days so anything will be an achievement !

 

[playa99]

Quick update, day 2 of no fap, strong, I had a girl I've made out with and messaged a bit pop up today and have a conversation with her.. I used to come on strong with this girl.. Not the way, in being mysterious cause I wanna be. You wanna know me then you gotta work at it, and left it Saykng we should go for a drink sometime when I ain't swamped with work, yano why, cause its midnight and I started at 6am.. I have no time right now but soon I will so I reckon patience will pay with this one, first real plate since starting this!

 

[playa99]

I'm really struggling to find time to do anything other than work, go to the gym and hang out with my mates!

It is a problem I need to address, as I've made the decision to cut out the FB chatting and excessive texting it feel's weird not to be constantly talking to a girl for the first time in 6 years i'd say, it cuts out desperation and loneliness in the long run tho so im happy with that!

I feel better in myself which is the main thing, work is busy and I'm looking forward to a BBQ this weekend! I'm gonna go shopping on my own... or something along them lines so I can actually start to get back out there more and meet some fresh women, which is the main problem... The women I know, there plates i've span in the past, either not escalated, made out with or whatever.

AIM: This weekend, I will get at least 3 numbers whilst out and about, no matter what!

 

[playa99]

Also, I think I might be being a bit picky... I was at a class yesterday and got talking to a chick there, maybe a 4/5 and I could have easily pursued it, but you know I just didn't want to, I know I need to start approaching and this girl was making sure she was always close to me.

I just think I want to get to know, meet and bang women because I want to.. Not because they come after me.. Yet I have a feeling of guilt if i pass off a woman's advances!

Picky or common sense??

 

[playa99]

So out I went last night for my mates birthday.. Pushed my comfort zone as my mate was the only guy who i knew out!

Confidence is definitely back now! Ended up making mates with a lot of his mates and making out with a 6.5, got her number and if it wasn't for her fat mate I could have banged her I reckon!! I got c0ckblocked the worst, I can defo meet her in the week and see what happens, her mate was also interested in me as well, dancing with me but I'd already pulled the 6.5 so I didn't wanna shoot myself in the foot!

Great night! Loads of people saying it was the funniest night they've had in ages, pulled the best available girl there, this is what being a DJ is about!

 

[playa99]

So I'm spinning the plate the other day.. The one I made out with, she's showing high interest but testing me to the max... There was a girl whose her good good mate out on Sunday, who also wants me, so she's testing saying shed hook me up with her, but in the same breath talking about going out for drinks and getting it on. Just a test, gotta play it cool, take this girl out for drinks and try bang her