"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Playa bi^ch?

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I went to a bar with a friend last night. There was this cute chick sitting with her female friend. I got a beer and sat next to her. I asked her name, she told me that I have to buy her a drink first, then she will tell me her name. I said that I will for a kiss, she just turned away from me and kept on talking to her friend. My AFC friend witnessed the situation from a distance brought her a beer, she said "At least this guy is not an *******" about my friend turning to me. Of course, my friend didn't get anything but her name. I explained to my friend that all she wanted was a free drink and possible wasn't interested in either of us. Should I have taken this game further? I know I could've messed with her further, but i was all out of ideas. Any ideas how I could've carried conversation with her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You could have used the "How about you buy my drink and ill buy your drink" line.
 
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The fact your thinking in terms of skill level - and whether your good enough to get her etc... is the problem.

Stop worrying about this stuff and just do and have fun.

You could have hit her with Julian's line above - or just said something like:

"I never buy chicks frinks until I've seen them naked"

Or

"How about I come back and talk to you when your no longer on the rag?"

i.e. let her know she's a b#tch.
 
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