"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Play it safe or gamble?

MM92

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Not been on here for a long while but basically I need advice as I'm at a crossroads and there is used to be pretty solid advice on here.

Basically I have a bit of a crush on my friends workmate. Weird as I've never actually spoken to her but there is something about her. She does know who I am by the way, I'm not some stalker from afar. From pure looks I'm 50/50 if she'd like me or not originally. However I'm 90% sure if she spent 5 minutes around me she would be more than willing to go on a date or something with me. The problem is I barely ever see her, and if I do it's when she's working in a busy environment.

I'm not sure whether to risk the 50/50 and ask her out when she may say no due to not knowing me so well, or bide my time which could take weeks/months until she may run in the same circles and get to know me when it would be nailed on as far as I'm concerned.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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move, before somebody else grabs her up. Dont be a pvssy, you'll regret it you don't at least TRY.
 

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move, before somebody else grabs her up. Dont be a pvssy, you'll regret it you don't at least TRY.
Yep, this is my worry. If I don't snap her up asap someone else might. Only issue being she may say no since she doesn't really know me, but if she did then she would most definitely say yes.

Just gonna have to take the risk. Finding the right time could be difficult. I don't wanna ask her out over facebook would be weird lol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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From pure looks I'm 50/50 if she'd like me or not originally.... However I'm 90% sure if she spent 5 minutes around me she would be more than willing to go on a date... I'm not sure whether to risk the 50/50 and ask her out when she may say no due to not knowing me so well
Notice how you mention nothing about the odds of you liking her... you've got quite the nice pedestal going for her there
 

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GAY!!!!!!!! tell youre friend to invite her for drinks and you all meet up to party. How have ou not thought of this yet ffs.
 

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Notice how you mention nothing about the odds of you liking her... you've got quite the nice pedestal going for her there
You're not wrong, although I won't know if I like her until she accepts a date.

GAY!!!!!!!! tell youre friend to invite her for drinks and you all meet up to party. How have ou not thought of this yet ffs.
Yep. I've had a shocker with this whole thing tbh, heads gone. Built something so small into something so big. Really unlike me these days
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You're not wrong, although I won't know if I like her until she accepts a date.
Let me ask you a question...

Have you ever had a conversation with her? About anything?
 

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Ehh i personally think it's a bit weird to go out of your way and show up randomly somewhere to ask her out. A smoother tactic in my mind would be to try to get your friend to invite her and some workmates out so that you can "conveniently" be introduced to her.

Is it the type of work where you can conveniently show up for a different reason? For example: if the girl works in a coffee shop or store, you can go there on the premise of getting a cup of coffee or meeting someone and then use that as an opportunity to further the interaction.

Of course you could just grab your balls and approach her out of the blue and flirt her pants off.
 
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