"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Play-fighting

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Im probably the strongest out of my group of friends, and floormates, can outlift many of them by far, and im fairly tall at 5'11. The problem is you know when you and your friends are goofing around, and getting in playfights(where you dont throw face shots, or hard punches) just grapple mostly. I actually find myself losing to much weaker people in these fights, i never know what to do. i basically just go for a headlock, i dont know any pins or choke outs or anything. These people who are weaker than me, can keep up with me in a fight even though im much stronger for some reason. IT doesnt make sense how someone who i can probably double there bench, squats or deads, can keep up with me in a fight
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As soon as you get them into that head lock, pull hard into their neck. Than drop to the floor on your back and wrap your legs around their body. They will tap pretty damn quick............ or take a nap. You don't need to out muscle them, just out think them.
 

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True power and strength vs a BJJ fighter can often prevent them from pulling off arm-bars and locks. So can technique but dont discount an extremely powerful / strong fighter vs a skinny one with lots of techniques. Both have advantages.
 

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thanks for the tips, but this is considering no one has any martial arts or fighting background. Just when i fight with my floormates, i want a way to make them tap out really quickly and no not to fu.ck around
 

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Look up...

Rear Naked Choke
Armbar
Ankle Lock
Hip Toss

The Hip Toss isn't a submission move, but if you're as strong as you say you are, nothing screams "Don't f*ck with me" like tossing somebody around.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I dont condone violence at all, but a tip when they get close you can push their head down and start firing a volley of knees to head.
 

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beercan said:
I dont condone violence at all, but a tip when they get close you can push their head down and start firing a volley of knees to head.

LOL remeber its PLAY fighting
 

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Lol, weightlifting =/= martial arts.

You think strength training alone will make you a better baller or golfer than another guy? If not, then why would you assume it will assure you of being a better fighter? If you want to become a better fighter, you need to train its sports-specific skills. Not just pump your max BP up, lol.

I've studied martial arts for awhile now and the more sophisticated your understanding, the more you rely upon skill and less upon brute strength.
 

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Charm said:
True power and strength vs a BJJ fighter can often prevent them from pulling off arm-bars and locks. So can technique but dont discount an extremely powerful / strong fighter vs a skinny one with lots of techniques. Both have advantages.
I study BJJ, and I can say with a lot of confidence that, unit for unit, technique beats strength any day of the week.

I have these two classmates. One (Sami) is a second stripe blue belt. He's 225lbs of muscle, and is a three-time Grand Champion BJJ fighter of Ontario for his weight class and skill level, or something like that. The other (Jonathan) is a second stripe purple belt. He's a 125 pound Asian dude, not a total skeleton, but still pretty skinny overall.

Even with a 100 pound weight disadvantage, as well as a significant height disadvantage, I've still seen Jonathan tap Sami out *tons* of times, usually without much effort. Jonathan is just too technical for Sami. Sami is certainly very techincal himself, but Jonathan's technique is that much better that, no matter how much force Sami tries to use, Jonathan always has an answer to it. I've asked my Professor about this, and he definitely agrees that good technique is much more valuable than sheer brute force.
 

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Oh, and btw, I would not recommend looking up the Arm Bar and Ankle Lock techniques, because they are more complex than the Rear Naked Choke and the Hip Toss, and if you are not personally taught how to do them properly by someone who knows his stuff, you'll do it very wrong.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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if you ask me, its all belief and willpower.

Any move CAN be escaped from or reversed. its just a matter of having the technical skill and belief that you can do it.

Physical strength is important, but a good opponent can also use your strength (and mass) against you
 

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Sean O said:
I study BJJ, and I can say with a lot of confidence that, unit for unit, technique beats strength any day of the week.

I have these two classmates. One (Sami) is a second stripe blue belt. He's 225lbs of muscle, and is a three-time Grand Champion BJJ fighter of Ontario for his weight class and skill level, or something like that. The other (Jonathan) is a second stripe purple belt. He's a 125 pound Asian dude, not a total skeleton, but still pretty skinny overall.

Even with a 100 pound weight disadvantage, as well as a significant height disadvantage, I've still seen Jonathan tap Sami out *tons* of times, usually without much effort. Jonathan is just too technical for Sami. Sami is certainly very techincal himself, but Jonathan's technique is that much better that, no matter how much force Sami tries to use, Jonathan always has an answer to it. I've asked my Professor about this, and he definitely agrees that good technique is much more valuable than sheer brute force.
Well, especially with grappling, size gets neutralized on the ground. Still, how the hell does some guy get to be a provincial champ yet still regularly beat by someone half his weight, lol?

Anyhow, the arm bar is not that complex, but do be very careful with ankle locks and heel hooks - as they can instantly tear your knee ligaments.
 

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Still, how the hell does some guy get to be a provincial champ yet still regularly beat by someone half his weight, lol?
Superior technique, bro. It shocked the hell out of me, too.

Anyhow, the arm bar is not that complex
The complexities I was referring to were the subtleties, such as where you position yourself when you set up for it, as well as where the guys elbow is positioned once you have a hold on his arm.
 

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the best thing you can do while grappling is use someone's wieght/force against them. im one of the smaller/weaker guys in my group (but i have been wrking out alot recently and getting stronger). we watch tons of UFC and have little wrestling matches all the time, but you have to remember that anything can happen. all my bigger friends try throwing me around but i use their force against them to leave them off balance and take them down.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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