"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DjBoogie

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There is this girl I knew in highschool(I graduated last year), well she was real into me but for one reason or another nothing ever happened and I quit talking to her after I graduated.

I talked to her for the first time in months on an IM and she still seemed interested, a few days go by and I talk to her again, and she says her friend misses me and wants to hang out, her friend is a dude I was cool with from school, but we were just an acquaintance. She says they hang out all the time.

So she wants to hang out with me but, like most woman, is too afraid to ask?
But even if he really does want to hang, she must have been talking about me for him to tell her that.

So should I play along with this, or call her on it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Obsidian

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I guess the main issue is that even if you get together with her, you won't be able to isolate her very well because that other guy will be around.
 

edmond

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In order to stop wasting your precious time, ask her out by herself and if she mentions her friend, drop her at once.
Unless you want to fvck him.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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