"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DjBoogie

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There is this girl I knew in highschool(I graduated last year), well she was real into me but for one reason or another nothing ever happened and I quit talking to her after I graduated.

I talked to her for the first time in months on an IM and she still seemed interested, a few days go by and I talk to her again, and she says her friend misses me and wants to hang out, her friend is a dude I was cool with from school, but we were just an acquaintance. She says they hang out all the time.

So she wants to hang out with me but, like most woman, is too afraid to ask?
But even if he really does want to hang, she must have been talking about me for him to tell her that.

So should I play along with this, or call her on it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Obsidian

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I guess the main issue is that even if you get together with her, you won't be able to isolate her very well because that other guy will be around.
 

edmond

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In order to stop wasting your precious time, ask her out by herself and if she mentions her friend, drop her at once.
Unless you want to fvck him.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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