"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Albatross953

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So with a job, kid, and aggressive self improvement do you find more than a couple plates is too many? I have two active plus one that's nuts over me I'm not sure about plus one with ex issues I've gone ghost on.
How many would you guys typically have on the go?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I can only speak from my personal experience but when I was doing everything right, working, gym, giving my hobbies adquate time, no more than 2 serious plates and maybe 1-2 oribeters/stand by plates. i didn't have time to fully entertain anything more than 2 women. i would actually spend time with 2 girls and then have 1-2 girls as a backup or replacement that i talked on the phone with/maybe got a drink with/booty call type deal

anything more than 2 plates i had too much time or i was trying to compensate for something through women
 

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Thanks BB. Just needed some point of reference. Got a lot on the go.
 

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I had five chicks I could call on for sex when I was at my peak. I probably only banged each of them once a month on average. But it was tiring and very demanding on my time.
I'd say two should be enough in order to live your own life as well as having your sexual needs met.
 

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Dear Albatross,
Number one priority is your Kid,Women come and go,but Blood will always be there....Plates,are not so much a matter of Svexual energy as so many believe,but time and energy to indulge their associated needs...certainly impacts on hobbies and health needs...usually routine reverts to a principal plate maybe three times a week and then other plates maybe twice a week,some planetary plates may only need attention once a month,others weekly...so you can see there are no hard and fast rules on how many plates to have...your own energy levels and their needs ensure that life settles into a regular routine....At your age you may anticipate a high attrition level,so always keep a few hopefuls auditioning in the wings!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I really hate to be debbie downer...

But in this day, this age, this anti-father world, if you really want kids, if you really want a legacy, if you really want to be the kind of father that grows successful adults

Maybe you should cut your losses and start over. Use red pill knowledge to choose an appropriate woman and keep a family together for as long as it takes.
 

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Hey that's not being a downer! If I find a woman I want to be with, without ex issues, or bat **** crazy....sign me up!! Thought I had one, couldn't close the deal. So while I look for her, having a few women around seems like the thing to do. Divorce sucks, but I didn't fire the first shot.
 

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Well its not about letting go of the woman, its about letting go of the kids already made.
 

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I don't have more than 2 semi-regular plates, no time as you said. I have on average 2 free nights/week, sometimes 3 but rarely, so I try to have 1 'a' girl who I see every week, one 'b' girl who's a bit less regular, and just enough room for new girls. So more like 1 plate, 1 kinda plate, with room for extras. It's good to be single.
 
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