"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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SmooveMooves

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Got yo ass. You probably thought this was some flaming whiny post about how a plate kept 'cheating on me'. Nope, this is merely a question:

How do you guys feel knowing that one of your plates sleeps with other men?

Relax, I know, I know, you're not supposed to care because you're (or should be) fvcking other women. But I can't lie the shyt bothered me just a tiny bit. I can't be the only one. This popped up because I was talking to my favorite plate and she mentioned it (It's well established early on that I won't commit) and I kind of got a little upset. I didn't communicate this or anything. I'm selfish as hell, so I kinda want her to only sleep with me but not anyone else haha. Anyway, what do you guys think about this? Let's discuss.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Got yo ass. You probably thought this was some flaming whiny post about how a plate kept 'cheating on me'. Nope, this is merely a question:

How do you guys feel knowing that one of your plates sleeps with other men?

Relax, I know, I know, you're not supposed to care because you're (or should be) fvcking other women. But I can't lie the shyt bothered me just a tiny bit. I can't be the only one. This popped up because I was talking to my favorite plate and she mentioned it (It's well established early on that I won't commit) and I kind of got a little upset. I didn't communicate this or anything. I'm selfish as hell, so I kinda want her to only sleep with me but not anyone else haha. Anyway, what do you guys think about this? Let's discuss.
Apply the same standards you put on others to yourself, that's how you'll get what you truly want. You expect her not to sleep with other men? Then don't sleep with other women. You want her to be fit? Then be fit yourself. Plates nowadays **** around a lot more than you think, they're just covert about it. Unless it's made abundantly clear that the two of you are exclusive, expect her to **** other guys, if not twice as much.

To me, it depends. If I really like the plate and want more, it'll annoy me and I'll probably cut it off then and there. If I don't, I really don't care as long as she's fcking them after me and not before. Generally, it turns me off, but that's reality.
 

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Unless it's a committed relationship it's not cheating. Also many guys actually can't handle having plates without developing emotions. But that's part of the deal with plates, it's not committed so she can do whatever she wants AND get sex from you as long as you allow it. You can't really expect anything because she's not committed to live up to your expectations, the only thing you can do is to walk away and find someone else if things aren't working out.

I say as long as you're not exclusive you should let it pass if you still want to fvck her, you have the same freedom.
 

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Accept that she is free to sleep with others and it won't bother you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just as long as she comes/c*ms when I call, (both literally and figuratively,) it's none of Rex's business who or what ole girl is doing when Rex isn't around.
 

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I find the thought of sharing a hole disgusting.

I confess I didn't think about it so much when I was younger (as long as I was getting laid I was thrilled). But who wants to stick their member into the same hole that is routinely inhabited by other penises?
 

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I really don't care.

But it does get a little strange when I find a situation where a friend of mine and I are fvcking the same woman. But you just don't think about it.
 

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For the guys giving me advice, I asked how YOU personally felt about it. I know how to handle the fact.
 

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I find the thought of sharing a hole disgusting.

I confess I didn't think about it so much when I was younger (as long as I was getting laid I was thrilled). But who wants to stick their member into the same hole that is routinely inhabited by other penises?
Likewise, but that's apart of the deal when dealing with the devil. I suppose just something we just gotta suck up and ignore.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I know I can't be a hypocrite.

These days, it's almost expected that women are banging 3-4 guys at a time. Thank social media for that.
 

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This popped up because I was talking to my favorite plate and she mentioned it (It's well established early on that I won't commit) and I kind of got a little upset.
You are upset that a plate, who is to be used just for sex and NOTHING ELSE, told you she is a little slutty? Come on bro, you can't change what was agreed upon in the middle of the game because of your FEELINGS. But whatever you do, don't tell her, she will laugh and the sex will stop.

I would just make sure I have other plates. I'd think you forget about her pretty fast if a movie star actress showed up at your door tomorrow wanting to have sex with you.
 

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I find the thought of sharing a hole disgusting.

I confess I didn't think about it so much when I was younger (as long as I was getting laid I was thrilled). But who wants to stick their member into the same hole that is routinely inhabited by other penises?
This so much lack of self-respect
 

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In theory I'm fine with it. It only makes sense.

In practice it (makes them) disgusts me.

It's different regions of the brain processing the same thing in their own ways leading to conflicting feelings. If Ape-Formation knew his plate was being fvcked by someone else, he would cave in that ape's skull - his brain would not even conceive the thought of something else. If Robot-Formation did, he would calculate that it rationally makes sense that she does because we're not exclusive, harems don't work on a societal scale, etc... (in fact Robot-Formation would likely not have more than an abstract concept of why it could be bad/wrong in the first place because he has no feelings that could lead to thinking it was negative). Man-Formation ends up being conflicted between both.
 
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For the guys giving me advice, I asked how YOU personally felt about it. I know how to handle the fact.
What I dont know doesnt hurt me (As long as theyre being safe). 99.99% of the time, I never see them with another guy, or hear about them sleeping with anyone else - until our plate relationship comes to an end - then maybe.

Me: what are you up to today?
Her: hey WM. Blah blah I think I met someone blah blah.
Me: Cool. Hope it works out well for you.

Sometimes theyll tell me about dates they go on while we're still seeing each other. But, if it comes up they never seem to admit having sex with anyone else. And I dont usually dig for it. Since we're not exclusive, I understand what she does when we're not together is her business. Even though its understood we're not exclusive, it does seem that a lot of these chicks are in fact only having sex with me. But I know that's not always the case, and as long as they're respectful about it - not throwing it around in my face - Im fine with it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ALWAYS give your prospects just enough rope to hang themselves. Then observe their behavior.

A plate that sleeps with other men while with you has done nothing wrong, as no exclusivity agreement exists. She, however, does immediately disqualify herself from a potential long-term relationship (LTR) down the road. As within the sphere of LTR, my definition of a quality, "competing" contender entails a woman who has self-respect--or a high enough interest level--whereas sharing her hole with two dvcks concurrently is out of the question.

Whatever her reason for concurrent dvcks cements her status as plate / fvck buddy permanently. I wouldn't be disappointed. Nor would I react. Instead, I would be thankful for this valuable info.
 
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Forget LTRs, insecurity, jealousy, all that stuff. I just think it's icky. :)
 

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Drop her silly ass if it grosses you out. It's probably a power play from her anyway. Place her in the BJ only category and game on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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