"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Plate scared of my Baby's Momma (ex)

PoZest

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 3, 2011
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
Location
UK
I've just recently left a LTR with a crazy girl I had a baby with, and three weeks later on, theres this girl I've been talking to a lot, and she told me she likes and wants me etc. She's sent me pictures and seems up for it. But she works with me and my daughters Mother and she is scared of what she will think/do, because she is still trying to get back with me.
And we have never managed to meet up outside of work.
I don't know what to say to convince her that it will be ok.
Do I say we can keep it a secret? Tell her she shouldn't care what ex thinks?
She seems to make excuses every time I say to meet. Well 3 times I've asked and she was working one time, and at college the other. But she hasn't really made an effort herself to meet up, and she always says 'what about ex, what will she think, she will kill me' etc.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

JumpOff

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 1, 2012
Messages
76
Reaction score
6
Location
OHIO
She's making excuses. If she wanted to see you, she would find the time. Dead this girl and move on.
 

apprenticedj

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 17, 2013
Messages
416
Reaction score
43
Location
The Golden State, USA
Let me give you some straight talk here mi amigo: At the end of the day is she worth it? Is any woman really worth the possible drama that this will cause? You're dealing with a potentially volcanic situation here, work, babies mama, new chick, your baby, it's all intermingled. In my opinion it's just not worth it. Politely cut off all talk with her and finalize the baby mama situation (end it or reconcile). If you decide to end it once and for all find women outside of work, there are so many out there. Best of luck.
 
Top