Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Plate management issue

mustfirstregister

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I'm seeing a girl, call it hb9, she is beautiful and she is a 9.5, even my friend say that. We have sex like wild animals. So in that department I'm very satisfied. She and I sent out signals to each other that we are bf/gf. She sees me almost everyday. Before I met hb9 I also met another hb7. I don't see hb7 very often nor banged yet, just made out.

I'm meeting hb7 in the afternoon tomorrow. But i'm sure hb9.5 would like to see me tomorrow too. Now I'm assuming I have a conflict in the schedule. I didn't see hb7 for 7 days already. I saw hb9.5 yesterday. What should I do? Anyone who has experience managing multiple plates, please help
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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don't make plans with hb 9

meet hb 7 in the afternoon, if things go well she will fill your evening. if not, hb 9 would still be around for the evening
 

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doctorj said:
don't make plans with hb 9

meet hb 7 in the afternoon, if things go well she will fill your evening. if not, hb 9 would still be around for the evening
this is how to manage the plates you hold.

If you are sure you arent exclusive with HB9 though? "signals to each" other is a little hazy, still, good luck.
 

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Tell HB9 you will be hanging out with friend(s) tomorrow but hopefully that you get a chance to see her. You are not lying, you just aren't telling the whole truth. However, if you guys are in an actual relationship like you somewhat alluded to, then there are no such things as half truths, you are lying to kick it with another girl...

Judgement aside, you have to manage HB9's expectations and let her know in advance that you may not be available. If you simply don't pick up the phone when she calls tomorrow and/or take forever to respond, her imagination might wander and you will be raising alarms and planting seeds of weeds of doubt that will have to be plucked later on or they will grow as the relationship progresses. If you have told her beforehand that you might have plans, then she will have a need for suspicion and you are good to go
 

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It ended up like this. HB9 went out of town. I saw HB7 (2nd date), she brought food and did picnic. However she resisted public display affection (Kisses, hugs, touch). It sucked, I finished the date after 1.5h with her. I thought she wanted to be in a private place to display affection, I offer to see a movie in my house. She says no. Then I say "OK", I asked if she wants to go home she says "yes" and I drop her home and I leave.

Not sure what happened yet, even though 1st date went well and we made out, 2nd date doesn't guarantee lay. I think I will let this plate to simmer for 2 weeks then contact her again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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