"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Plate management issue

mustfirstregister

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I'm seeing a girl, call it hb9, she is beautiful and she is a 9.5, even my friend say that. We have sex like wild animals. So in that department I'm very satisfied. She and I sent out signals to each other that we are bf/gf. She sees me almost everyday. Before I met hb9 I also met another hb7. I don't see hb7 very often nor banged yet, just made out.

I'm meeting hb7 in the afternoon tomorrow. But i'm sure hb9.5 would like to see me tomorrow too. Now I'm assuming I have a conflict in the schedule. I didn't see hb7 for 7 days already. I saw hb9.5 yesterday. What should I do? Anyone who has experience managing multiple plates, please help
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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don't make plans with hb 9

meet hb 7 in the afternoon, if things go well she will fill your evening. if not, hb 9 would still be around for the evening
 

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doctorj said:
don't make plans with hb 9

meet hb 7 in the afternoon, if things go well she will fill your evening. if not, hb 9 would still be around for the evening
this is how to manage the plates you hold.

If you are sure you arent exclusive with HB9 though? "signals to each" other is a little hazy, still, good luck.
 

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Tell HB9 you will be hanging out with friend(s) tomorrow but hopefully that you get a chance to see her. You are not lying, you just aren't telling the whole truth. However, if you guys are in an actual relationship like you somewhat alluded to, then there are no such things as half truths, you are lying to kick it with another girl...

Judgement aside, you have to manage HB9's expectations and let her know in advance that you may not be available. If you simply don't pick up the phone when she calls tomorrow and/or take forever to respond, her imagination might wander and you will be raising alarms and planting seeds of weeds of doubt that will have to be plucked later on or they will grow as the relationship progresses. If you have told her beforehand that you might have plans, then she will have a need for suspicion and you are good to go
 

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It ended up like this. HB9 went out of town. I saw HB7 (2nd date), she brought food and did picnic. However she resisted public display affection (Kisses, hugs, touch). It sucked, I finished the date after 1.5h with her. I thought she wanted to be in a private place to display affection, I offer to see a movie in my house. She says no. Then I say "OK", I asked if she wants to go home she says "yes" and I drop her home and I leave.

Not sure what happened yet, even though 1st date went well and we made out, 2nd date doesn't guarantee lay. I think I will let this plate to simmer for 2 weeks then contact her again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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